I’m not tired of touring. I can’t imagine ever being tired of touring. Friday cannot come fast enough as I’m terribly anxious to see Rhonda and to get to our first show in Biloxi. No, I’m tired of how Duranland responds to Duran shows. I feel like my perspective on Duranland or on Duran tours/shows has changed. As you all know, Rhonda and I flew to the UK twice last year to see them perform in their home country. A year ago, Simon was unable to sing and Duran’s future was in question. Then, he got his voice back and the band returned, better and stronger than ever. I felt this. Yet, I did not feel it when I went to the show in Chicago in October. No, I felt it when I went to the shows in the UK. Why? What was the difference? Was it the setlists? Was it me? Was it the crowd? Was it all of the above?
As I look back, I know that it wasn’t the setlists. In fact, there wasn’t much of a difference between the Chicago show in October and the shows in the UK. Yes, we heard Secret Oktober, which truly was a dream come true! Sometimes, I have to remind myself that it was real. By the third show, though, the setlist was generally locked in place. We knew what to expect and, frankly, we didn’t care. I didn’t care. Why? The shows were so amazing that I wasn’t annoyed by seeing the exact same songs night after night. A good show isn’t about that, to me. Now, don’t get me wrong. I would absolutely ADORE a few changes to the setlists. Who wouldn’t? I know that Rhonda was terribly excited about seeing Mediterranea in the setlist. I would love if they wanted to play Too Bad You’re So Beautiful. Both of us might faint, cry, scream at the same time if we ever heard the notes to Late Bar. Yet, I find myself so tired of the complaining. Duran could play a setlist of b-sides and album tracks and if they played without energy, without focus, the show would still suck. Likewise, they could play only hits and the show could be great, depending on the band, the crowd, etc. I understand fans’ desire to see new and different tracks. I feel that way, too, but I think I’m letting it go. I learned that it is so much more important to have them performing and performing well than what songs are played.
Maybe, then, the change is me. My focus, my attitude is different. I know that this can all be gone in an instant. Something can happen to them. Something can happen to me. Why complain about setlists? I see so many people saying that they have tickets to show X but aren’t sure if they should go because the setlist is so boring. Other people would love to be able to go to a show. I get to go to shows and I’m still excited! I just don’t want to spend my time getting ready to go on tour or being on tour and hearing negative or not fun things about the shows, the band, etc. It makes my attitude bad and that almost always guarantees that I will not enjoy myself as I should. Let me give you an example. Rhonda and I did three shows at the end of 2008. We weren’t thrilled with RCM and went into the shows knowing this. We were excited, we thought. Yet, when we got to the first show, we weren’t. Our seats sucked and we complained about the setlist. Somewhere between that show and the show a couple of days later, we decided to let the rest of the crap go and just enjoy the show. We got a decent spot at the show (it was GA) and liked listening to other people around us anxiously awaiting the first notes. Guess what happened? We didn’t like that first show much but really liked the last one. Is that a coincidence? I don’t think so.
My point is this. Expectations and attitudes matter. Worrying about the setlist leads to a bad time. Thinking that the show isn’t going to be that good will make it so. Interestingly enough, I haven’t seen many comments saying that these first two shows weren’t good. It has been the exact opposite. People seem to have had a great time! Maybe, the lesson really is for me. Perhaps, I need to avoid those people who would bring me down. I have a show in a week and I want nothing, nothing, nothing but that excitement that I had during the UK tour. After all, who knows when the next one will be.