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Should we or shouldn’t we?

A very wise man once said that we should never meet our idols because they will never live up to our expectations.

Now, I don’t doubt what this man said, for he too was (and is!) an idol for many. We’ve all heard comments about the band being put on a pedestal by fans, a mighty narrow one at that. It’s pretty incredible to consider just how high of standards some fans have them living up to, and one has to wonder if it’s at possible for a human being to really be that perfect.

Of course not.

It’s only natural for fans, especially those who became fans at a very young age, to put a band or celebrity up on a pedestal. I suspect that it has much to do with that Prince Charming syndrome – where we want our prince to come and save us. It’s a beautiful idea at the age of ten, eleven or twelve. The trouble is, most of us are a few decades beyond now. Reality should have set in at some point. We know the band isn’t perfect, don’t we? We know that each of them cannot possibly be happy to see us each and every time we catch sight of them in public. Sometimes, people really do just want to be left alone.

Like everything else in life, nothing is quite that simple. I know many fans that say “The band are celebrities and everything that goes along with that, the being kind at all times, the ‘perfection’ (or at least carrying on the idea that it is so), all of that goes along with the fame and fortune they found.” I’m pretty happy and well-adjusted enough to know that’s crazy talk.  People are people. Sure, when they’re on the town, working the “Duran Duran” machine, that’s WORK. I would say that yes, they probably do need to try and remember to at least give a smile and be friendly, just like I’m supposed to do so when I’m at “work”. At least…that’s what I hear. That does NOT mean though that every day when they’re on tour, whether there is a show, a press function, etc. that day or not, that they are required to put up with eager fans. You take your chance on those occasions, and I have to say that I’m amazed at how decidedly unaware fans are as to when it’s a “good time” or a “bad time”.  For those folks, I wish them luck. They’re the ones who are unfortunately going to find members of the band at the worst possible moment, have one bad experience, and then blab away about it on a public board, expecting all to agree and lament their bad experience. It’s unfair to assume that since they are indeed celebrities, they are somehow public property at all times, is it not?

For me personally, I think I left my idolization for the band, and truly for all celebrities alike – back in childhood. What replaced that idolization is respect, for the most part. I respect the band. Sure I still love them to pieces, but I don’t think you can call what I feel for them idolization. It’s different. I see them as the faulty humans they truly are. That doesn’t mean they’re somehow horrible because of that; it’s just that while yes they might have larger homes, drive nicer cars and take more luxurious vacations than I do, they’re still just human.  I respect the fact that they have put out over a dozen albums, toured the world many times over, are a good ten years older than I am and yet they still get out there on that stage and rock it better than I think they ever have before. I respect that they’re not quite finished yet, and that they continue to try new things, even when sometimes those new things have completely thrown me. I respect the fact that they’re people, and that sometimes people have really crappy days and the very last thing they want is somebody like me in their face.

Here is the double edged sword though – I want that same respect in return.  No, the band doesn’t know me. I don’t expect for them to look at me in a crowd and recognize me, know my name, or lastly – even have read the blog and be able to put two and two together. Hardly.  By respect I mean treat me as a human rather than a dollar sign with legs. Don’t wince as I’m walking down the hall because let me be clear – chances are – I will walk right past without even daring to do much more than smile unless they stop me first.  (Again, hardly think that’ll happen in my lifetime.) Naturally, I recognize that for the most part, fans would never just walk right by, and I know the negative connotations that go along with being a fan.  It sucks to be on this side at times. That said, we kind of ask for it, don’t we? Generally speaking, it’s a two way street, isn’t it? Treat others as you wish to be treated?? Anyone recognize that saying??

Let me be clear, I’ve never met the band outside of a signing, a chance “meeting” with one member of the band at a club in Vegas – and no, I did not speak to him (I smiled and left him alone to enjoy his night as I was enjoying my own), and another chance encounter with a fellow plane passenger/guitarist on a flight to New Orleans. I am not the type of person that will go running up to any of the band members expecting hugs, photos or who-knows-what-else. That sort of thing completely freaks me out, as I’m pretty sure it must them at times.  I try to remember that as often as I can when I’m “on tour” or at a function where they are in attendance. I’d much prefer to have a casual discussion over coffee or drinks and leave the whole “Oh my god I’ve been a fan for my entire life, can I hug you, can I get a picture, can I can I can I?!?” at the door. Again, that whole scene freaks me out just a little when I think about it.  

Granted, this is probably why I’ll never have photos with the band, and I get that. On the same token, and I mean this seriously – I write a blog about being a fan. Many people read this blog every day, as well as some others that I write on occasion for other places. My fandom, as it is, has taken on a completely different role in my life at this point. I have deep respect for the people within my fandom, whether those are friends, fellow fans, readers, or the band themselves.

Recently I commented to the wise man I mentioned earlier that when idolization gives way to true respect that goes beyond the music and the person on the cover of a magazine, you realize we’re all just human, and respect comes freely – flaws and all. I really believe this.  What about you?

-R

The Story Behind the Story

So by now it should be pretty clear that our little post on Sunday was an April Fools Joke.  Anyone who has been reading the blog with any sort of regularity over the past 18 months or so probably knows that I personally have extreme difficulty in even saying the name Justin Bieber without choking. Just imagine what it was like to be in my house on that fateful Sunday….

Originally, Amanda and I had a very different idea. I’m not going to get into that first idea because, well, I’m not interested in being publicly flogged, and I’m a little afraid of karma.  Maybe we’ll tell the the story in our “tell-all” book that will come out when we’re all about ninety years old or so. Regardless, the first idea was completely shelved rather quickly and we had decided to do a silly pictorial. Everyone needs a laugh, right?? If not at the expense of the band, why bother?!  As we were starting to get worried about finding enough photos of a couple band members (It’s simply fascinating as to just how many silly Simon photos there are out there. Does he pay to have a camera following him every single second?!? I just can’t imagine that paparazzi are THAT interested in a member of Duran Duran!), Amanda and I  conferenced via speaker phone. While we were chatting, my husband, who is never short on ideas or opinions (regardless of whether those ideas and opinions are good, requested…or otherwise…), suggested that for one day, instead of being Daily Duranie, we decide to throw our fandom for DD overboard in favor of another. This idea amused me almost immediately. Can you imagine coming to the blog and finding that we’d decided to become Timbaland fans or something??

I can see the men with the white coats showing up to my house right now…coming to take me away….hee hee… (yes, the pun to the infamous 1966 song by Jerry Samuels IS intended)

Of course, none of our friends would quite believe Timbaland, so the question became “Who?” My husband had plenty of really bad ideas, and finally I mentioned Justin Bieber.  From there, the idea morphed into what you should have read on Sunday (If you haven’t read that blog yet, give yourself a smack on the behind and go read it here.) Rather than go to the trouble of changing the entire blog, we felt it would be far more believable for us to set about trying to convince all of Duranland that we should get behind a petition to have the get Justin as an opening act for the US dates in August.

The way the writing worked was that while on speaker, we worked out the wording together, and I typed. Then I went back, read through the blog again for editing. Then I desperately tried to read the entire thing back aloud. The read-back didn’t work very well because I could barely get through a single sentence without laughing. My hand shook as I clicked on “publish”, and then Amanda and I both posted the title of the new blog on Facebook and Twitter. We said our goodbyes, and then sat back to wait.

Facebook is typically much slower to react than Twitter, partially due to the real-time nature of Twitter. This particular Sunday was no different, and for a brief time I worried that perhaps the blog would go completely unnoticed. That has happened before. (Yes, that means that a lot of you are missing some of our very best work. There are actually blogs in our history that have gotten VERY few views – and while I try not to be offended by that, I must say, you’re missing out!) In any case, after waiting for someone, anyone to notice enough to say something on Facebook, I decided to check out the action on Twitter. I was not disappointed.

As soon as I opened Twitter I could see that not only was Amanda online, but she had already begun getting tweets asking if we’d lost our sanity. While she and I really hadn’t discussed what we we would do to handle that particular situation, I think both of us realized that in order for the joke to truly work – we’d have to follow through and defend our work.  After requesting a very large, very dirty martini from my bartender (Thanks to my husband), I set about helping Amanda defend our opinions. It is amazing what a good Grey Goose martini will do to ease the inhibitions while you’re typing the words “Embrace The Beebs”. I really can’t tell you how many times I laid my head down on the table that day, laughing hysterically.

There were a few times that day when I had to admit that yes, it was a joke. There were more than one reader that announced they were going to have to unfollow us, and I couldn’t have that happen.  I can certainly understand why they felt that way. Other than those few instances, we stuck to our story, and I even tweeted the band – who are probably on a hiatus and will never read the blog anyway – just to see what would happen. By the evening, I was exhausted and the best part? We had exceeded our daily tweet limit and could no longer tweet back! I didn’t even realize there was a limit! I apologized to a few of our twitter followers through DM and excused myself for the night, knowing that we’d have plenty to deal with in the morning.

While writing the blog was very fun and reading the reactions and opinions was downright hilarious at times, I would be remiss if I didn’t acknowledge that at least in part, our blog was very true, and very realistic. That’s why so many fellow fans believed that we were serious, and that’s why our joke worked. (That and our fabulous acting skills I am sure.) It’s no joke that the band has not experienced a huge amount of commercial success from the album.  It’s also not a joke that the band does have an uphill battle in reaching younger fans. The question of course is whether or not those things are truly necessary in order to continue. I don’t have those answers, and once again I find myself thankful that those things are not a part of my job. I’m simply one of the many Monday Morning Quarterbacks out there, as is Amanda even if she’s the smarter one of the two of us. Speculation is part of my hobby, but I don’t hold any of the real answers. The beauty in defending our blog that day was reading and learning from some of the very poignant and descriptive reasons why the band shouldn’t care about that younger generation, why they should just concern themselves with their own craft, and even why some people feel strongly that certain songs on the album are simply just updated, re-mixed versions of songs like “Girls on Film” or “The Chauffeur”.

So the real story behind the story was that even though we set out to tell a joke, we learned something in the process. Not a bad way to spend April Fools Day, really.

-R

Nightboat – Daily Duranie Review

This is NOT an April Fool’s Prank since it’s April 2nd!  We’re continuing our review series with Nightboat today.

Before we get into that, however – Amanda and I want to extend our condolences to the family, friends and loved ones of @DDStolenLeopard, known to the rest of the world as Sandy Ahrens.  Sandy passed this weekend, and we are heartbroken for her family and friends.  While neither of us knew Sandy personally, she was known for making us laugh with her tweets and we had begun to make plans for a get together when we come to North Carolina in August.  Once again we are reminded of just how short life really is – and how at the end of it all, it will be the memories we share with friends that have made this journey in fandom completely worthwhile.  Yes, the band is wonderful (that’s a given, right?), and yes the shows are amazing, but they wouldn’t be anything without the time we’ve shared with our friends.  That’s truly what’s important.  While I hate that it’s these moments that serve as that reminder, perhaps if there’s a silver lining to be gained here, it’s being given the gift of time to get past the insipid drama and recognize the gift of friendship that we’ve been given.  Bless you Sandy.  Rest in Peace.

-Rhonda & Amanda
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Night Boat

Rhonda’s take:


Musicality/Instrumentation: One thing I can say about Duran Duran is that they know how to create an atmosphere.  While it’s easy to point at Nick Rhodes and say it’s all about the synths, I dare say that on this song – it took the entire band.  Yes, Nick begins the song with almost a not-quite-dreamy and yet not-quite-nightmarish synth background.  Before I ever saw the video, I had this vision of being in one of my dreams where I am walking down a dark hallway, not quite sure where I’m going, and pulling back sheer curtain after sheer curtain until I finally get to the end of the hallway where there’s one door.  You’d think I’d just learn to turn around and retreat back to my own bedroom, but no.  I open the door, and that’s when Simon’s voice comes out of nowhere to scare the hell out of me. (you can laugh here.  It’s OK.  I did.)  My point of course is that the music does absolutely everything it can to make this song scary, and it works.  That’s musicality at it’s finest.  Every single instrument has it’s own part in this song to create the intended mood, and while yes, Nick starts it – I think every instrument and band member fully commits themselves to the storyline, and it works.

Vocals: It’s a good thing that they recorded this song back in 1981, because I’m just not sure they could recreate the mood if they tried it again today.  During this point, Simon had such a unique way about his voice.  There was a darkness and edge to it that I just don’t know if he has any longer.  I don’t know why that is – I hate blaming these things on age, but perhaps that is the case?  I’ve heard them do this song live and I just don’t think it’s the same (that could very well be due to the production on the album, though).  That said, I think this song is a perfect example of Simon’s talent as a lead singer.  So many bands try to do a song that is a horror film come to music and they fail largely due to the singer not being able to properly convey the mood.  This is not the case here.  This song is a testament to Simon’s training not only as a singer but also as an actor.  There’s no lack of emotion in his voice as he sings, it’s very clear that the song is meant to engage the listener and create a sense of anxiety.  Let’s just say that this is one song I choose not to listen to at night!  🙂

Lyrics: It’s true, I never really understood the point of the song. I never connected much with the lyrics beyond being scared to death of the song when I was young.  I would honestly race to the record player and move the needle to skip the song.  My overactive imagination would envision Simon coming for me as a zombie, and I just wasn’t into it.  I much preferred the visions of the boys on a yacht, basking in the sun, or seeing them dressed up in military uniforms.  So, all I knew was that the song scared me.  It still does.  The interesting thing about this song is that one doesn’t even need the lyrics in order to understand what the song is trying to convey.  Sure, there’s a lot of talk about a boat coming and the apparent anxiety that this is causing Simon…but ultimately the real punch to the song is in the music, not the lyrics.  That isn’t to say that the lyrics aren’t excellent, it’s just that the music is what really brings the meaning into focus.

Production: I can’t complain about the production here. There isn’t a song on the original album that I can say was overdone.  There’s complete balance: each instrument is allowed to tell his story without yelling over someone else.  Who knew that eventually this would become a thing of the past?!?  Even with all of the extra effects on synthesizer, it’s not overdone and it’s complementary to everything else.  I wish today’s type of production took notes off of songs like these.  There is something to be said for allowing the instruments to do the real work.  Then again, there’s something to be said for real talent that doesn’t need to be manipulated in order for it to sound right.

Overall:  Tough as it is for me to admit, this is not one of my favorite Duran Duran songs.  I just never quite enjoyed it, although I do have appreciation for the song.  I respect how it was done and the talent involved, even if it is the one song I always skip when the CD is in my car or it comes up on my iPod.  While I might not ever call it among my favorites, the song is good in it’s own right and I respect that.

Cocktail Rating: 4.5 cocktails!

Amanda’s Turn:

Musicality/Instrumentation:   Confession time here.  I truly do enjoy the dark side of Duran Duran.  I like those times when they skirt the edge of being gothic like and this song truly is an example of this!  The word that always comes to mind when listening to this song is “eerie”.  The music is supposed to creep you out.  It is supposed to create a fear or an anxiety.  Right from the beginning, from those first notes on Nick’s keys, you know that this isn’t going to be one of those happy, bouncy Duran songs.  Nick’s keyboards remind me of classic goth in the sense that I almost hear organ in the first minute to minute and a half of this song.  There is very little going in the beginning of the song but Nick’s haunting keyboards.  Then, John’s bass enters.  This sound doesn’t distract from the creepiness but adds to it.  The drums and guitars eventually come in with the lyrics and chorus to round out the sound.  While the song starts with Nick dominating, by the end, everyone is fully involved. 

Vocals:  This song has always represented the best and the worst of Simon’s vocals to me.  I love the deep Simon vocals on this track.  These vocals were present throughout the first album and I will always love them.  In many of the songs on the first album, but especially this one, Simon’s vocals seem, to me, to be an example of someone trying desperately to control one’s emotions.  It isn’t that Simon is calm but he is trying to seem that way.  Yet, if you pay attention, you can feel the anxiety just waiting to jump out, which it does, at times.  Those times, in my head, are when his vocals suddenly become much higher.  For example, he often is deep but then jumps to a higher note when singing “Nightboat,” with the boat being the high part.  These moments bothered me as a kid and they still bother me today even though I think they are fitting with the song.  In these moments, I can really see and tell that Duran was an art school project.  Their songs were never just straight up songs but ones that went beyond the traditional song.  Each song was like a different piece of artwork with different emotions and tones.  This is Duran at their best.  Nonetheless, while I get this element in his vocals, I still don’t like those high parts.

Lyrics:  This is honestly where the song doesn’t work as well as it could have and should have, in my opinion.  The music is absolutely brilliant.  Yet, the lyrics don’t hold up as well.  I don’t really get why the nightboat is such a big deal exactly.  We know that we should be worried about it but I don’t really know why.  If Simon was going to be cryptic here, he should have been more cryptic.  If not, he should given more of a storyline.  When I think of other dark, classic Duran songs, the ones that work the best have bigger storylines.  I think Nightboat needed that.

Production:  Like every other song on the first album, the production is great.  The instruments work individually and blend perfectly.  Simon’s voice, for the most part, matches the instrumentation and the atmosphere.  I don’t think you can ask for anything better.  One thing I am amazed by is how Duran was allowed to create songs like Girls on Film to songs like Nightboat on the same album.  The producer could have pushed them more towards songs that could have seemed more mainstream like Girls on Film.  Yet, they were allowed to make art pieces like this song.  They were given enough freedom to show every side of themselves. 

Overall:  I love the instrumentation/musicality on this song.  I love when they are/were dark and atmospheric.  I love Simon’s vocals when they are deep and seem to show barely controlled emotions.  I wish that the lyrics had been stronger, however, and I could have done without the high notes at the end of “Nightboat” in the song.  Yet, despite any weaknesses, this song fits so perfectly with the rest of the first album.  It shows how dark Duran can be and shows their amazing ability to create a mood.  While songs like Anyone Out There created a feeling of loneliness and isolation, this one creates an anxiety, a nervousness.  It is interesting that they chose to place this song at the beginning of the second side to the album.  It definitely told the listener that the second half of their debut album wasn’t going to be light and pretty.

Cocktail Rating:   4 cocktails!

Broadening Duran Duran’s Fan Base

We all love Duran Duran’s newest album, All You Need is Now.  The entire fan base has thrown themselves behind this album in a way that hasn’t really been done since the early days of the first album and Rio.  Despite the band touring, shooting song videos and a dedicated online presence in social media, album sales simply haven’t been there.  This is clearly a problem because without album sales, the band will lack funds, motivation, etc.  Commercial success is important.  Without that success, the band will likely cease to continue. We can’t have that happen.  As fans, we have to do our part to broaden their fan base.  This means embracing the younger generation.  As much as we don’t wish to share the band, we need to in order to have the band continue.  

In attempts to try and find a solution, we look to current, more youthful and popular acts amongst the younger demographic (18-25 year olds) as possible support acts for tours.  While there are many artists that have captured that youth audience, we need to find one that creates the same level of hysteria among females.  Let’s face it – it has always been females that have been the core audience of Duran Duran and other other wildly popular artists throughout rock and roll history. (For instance, The Beatles, Elvis Presley, etc.)  We also aspire to find an artist who uses their fan base as a catalyst for sales and activity.  We want to continue to promote a sort of synergy between artist and fan base.  Duran Duran has made such huge inroads in connecting with their fan base, we very much wish for this to continue.  
Based on all of our extensive research, including this blog here, we feel that there is a very strong case for working with Justin Bieber.  Both Rhonda and Amanda have continued to become increasingly captivated by his work, obvious talent, and fan outreach.  Not only is his fan base incredibly youthful, they are willing and ready to go to work for Justin in any moment, creating hysteria, sales, and press interest in a way the world hasn’t seen since at least 1984.  Just as Duran fans have a name for themselves that they take to heart (Duranies), Justin Bieber fans call themselves Beliebers, and truly embrace the idea of being his army.  There’s no denying the effect that they have on Justin’s continued success. 
Now, we both know the question that is floating through our readers heads right now.  Why would Justin ever want to work with Duran Duran?  Obviously the band has been around a while.  They know how to deal with fan hysteria.  They know what it’s like to have their fan base age.  They know how to do handle long term success with a long term career.  Justin’s fans can learn from Duran’s fans.  We know what it is like to see our idols age.  We’ve learned how to tour appropriately.  We know what it’s like to go from having the band as the posters on our walls to staying in the same hotel as the band on tour.  Therefore it’s a win-win situation for everyone from Duran to Justin to their collective fan base.  
We are advocating for this quality of music to join forces with Duran’s quality of music by having Justin Bieber as the opening act for the 2012 US tour.  One might be curious as to how Justin’s catalog might fit in.  In fact, they would rightly complement each other.  Justin’s musical style has a slight urban feel to it at times, and as we all know, Duran Duran has worked with urban producers many times during their tenure.  For example, Duran Duran’s last album, Red Carpet Massacre, was completed with the fantastic hip and modern producer Timbaland.  Everyone knows his amazing work on Night Runner, Skin Divers and Zoom In set off the entire album as a timeless classic.  As Nick Rhodes himself has said, he feels the album will stand the test of time.  So, it is clear that the two catalogs of music, while distinctly different, very much complement one another.  
For the past year, fans have sat back and effectively been the Monday Morning Quarterbacks   in trying to explain the lack of sales and excitement surrounding what has quite possibly been one of the best albums Duran Duran has ever completed.  It’s now time to be proactive rather than reactive and offer an effective solution, which is why Rhonda and Amanda are calling fans to action.  Let’s promote the idea of a Justin Bieber/Duran Duran tour for the US! Daily Duranie is in the process of getting a petition ready, and we want each and every one of you to sign it, and share it widely so that we can get as many Duranies on board as possible.  This is a huge opportunity for power of the fans to speak and help to insure the bands future for many years to come.  
In closing Rhonda and Amanda are posting a youtube clip of Justin’s new song “Boyfriend”.  Embrace the Bieber.  You know you wanna.  
– A & R

No Regrets!!

One of the things about Duran Duran that has always impressed me was their consistent focus on the now, the present.  They constantly get asked questions regarding the past, especially the 1980s.  They typically respond with how excited they are about the current era, what they are currently working on.  Then, of course, they are starting to get asked questions about the future more and more.  How long will they continue?  Will there be another album?  Recently, when in Dubai, Simon participated in an interview and indicated that the band might have another 5 or 10 years.  This, of course, caught my attention and I filed it away under things I should and would want to talk about on the blog.  Then, this morning, I asked an open-ended question on our facebook and twitter about which song people would like to hear live that they haven’t.  On twitter, it led to a discussion on John Taylor’s solo days.  On both, when people mentioned a specific song, frequently, other people would respond that they saw the song performed live during a specific tour.  Simon’s interview and today’s discussions reminded me that I already have some regrets about my fandom, but that I don’t ever want to have more. 

I cannot be the only one to regret things regarding Duran Duran, am I?  Like many people out there, Duran Duran was placed on the back burner in the mid-late 90s.  There were a variety of reasons for this, including not being wowed at a concert I saw in 1993, being and graduating from college, starting my career, and completing graduate school.  I was pretty busy during that time of my life and didn’t have any extra money at all.  Of course, it didn’t help that my favorite band member, John Taylor, left the band.  I didn’t completely ignore Duran and Duranland as I watched shows like Storytellers when it aired and saw various TV performances during the Medazzaland era.  That said, I didn’t follow a lot of what John Taylor was up to.  In many ways, I couldn’t as I didn’t even have a computer at home when I graduated from college!  That’s how broke I was!!  Anyway, I regret not following his career at that point as I would have loved to see him perform during his solo days.  Those gigs were small and looked to be a ton of fun.  Thus, I have to admit regretting that.  I wasn’t able to participate much during the reunion, either, due to finishing my master’s degree.  Thus, when I had the chance to dive back in, I did in 2004.  I was determined to do as much as I could.  That motto remains with me to this day.  I don’t want to look back and regret any other era of Duran even when I wasn’t excited about an album (*coughRCMcough*). 

It seems to me that there are other fans who are like me in that they look back and regret their non-involvement.  These regrets could be as upsetting as missing a whole era or they could be missing out on a tour.  Based on today’s response to my question about a song to hear live, there are many people who missed a tour and missed hearing/seeing one of their favorite songs performed live.  Obviously, Duran doesn’t play the exact same songs every night during a tour so it is possible that people saw a tour but didn’t have a specific song on the setlist(s) for the show(s) they went to.  Yet, some songs were played consistently during specific tours.  Then, what about this idea that Duran might be done in 5 or 10 years.  While I don’t even want to think about it at all, I have to acknowledge that they cannot continue forever.  They can’t.  Thus, I can’t wait until the next show, the next tour.  I have to do as much as I can NOW.  I don’t want to have any regrets ever again when it comes to this band!

As Rhonda and I plan for the summer tour, I am keeping this in mind.  There are many goals that I haven’t been able to fulfill yet.  For example, I haven’t seen a show from front row.  I haven’t gotten photos with the band except for one picture with Nick that I shared with my friend.  I don’t have any guitar picks or drumsticks.  Now, of course, I can’t control my seats or meeting the band, but I can only try and that means going to shows.  I won’t regret if I don’t get those front row seats or pictures but I will regret if I don’t try. 

-A

There Is Nothing Gonna Ace This…

I confess that I have been home sick with a fever, sore throat, runny nose, and exhaustion.  Now, it might be my fever or a dream but I swear that I saw actual tour dates from Duran Duran!  Did that really happen?!  Rhonda and I have definitely posted many blogs criticizing the band’s team or offering suggestions about how to do things better.  In this case, I have nothing but major praise to offer!!!  I’m so impressed by the email saying what information they know.  If you saw yesterday’s blog, this email from DDM to members included dates and locations.  In some cases, venues and sale information was given.  Perfect!  This allows many of us to plan!  Will other information be added? Obviously, the answer there is yes.  Venues will need to be listed as will ticket sale information.  Will other dates be added, many want to know?  I have no idea.  Are there spots for them to add more dates?  Sure.  Will they?  I don’t know.  Now, that said, they still won’t play for four days in a row.

Of course, not everyone is going to be satisfied.  For example, not everyone got the email.  While that is a problem, the information was shared widely within a few minutes.  Another complaint is when and where they are going.  People don’t have shows near them.  I understand this, but the band cannot cover every place in North America.  Other people are choosing to sit this one out for various reasons, including family vacation plans, not liking the setlists, and not wanting to ruin memories from a previous great show.  Nonetheless, I don’t think the fans really can offer anything less than praise here, even if the tour won’t work for individual people.

This email gave us tour dates for shows that won’t take place for another 4 months!!!!  This is unheard of in Duranland.  In most cases, in recent times, we have gotten dates 6-8 weeks ahead of a tour.  People can plan easier with less stress, including knowing how much money needs to be saved.  Can we ask for anything more?  Of course, it will be interesting to see how the presales go.  Will they be announced in advance?  How soon in advance?  It seems to me that we will have some time before the presales happen.  I would suspect that most of the presales will happen the week that the public sale happens.  As with anything else happening in Duranland, I’m sure we will be commenting!

Now, Rhonda and I have to figure out what we can do.  Right now, we have tickets to Durham and will be building a tour around that show.  On top of that, we have been missing the old Duranie Dorms (group rate at hotels).  Therefore, we would like to know how interested people are in doing that.  Likewise, we hope to get meetups planned for shows as well.  So, what shows are people planning on doing?  Would people be interested in doing Duranie Dorms?  Meetups?

I have to admit that I love when tour dates come out!  I love the excitement in the fan community!  I love planning!  I love having a tour to look forward to!  To me, this is best part of Duranland!  In this case, the planning is even more fun since people cannot complain about the band and the team behind them!  It is less stressful because of the notice.  It is fabulous!!!!  Thank you DDHQ!!!

-A

TOUR DATES!!!

I just received the following email!  Let the planning begin!!!

Hi,
We have received numerous requests to give fans an idea of where the band will be this spring and summer. Unfortunately we are still confirming exact details for a number of dates but wanted to let you know the cities we will be visiting. Dates that have been announced will have the venue listed and additional details can be found in the TOUR section of www.duranduranmusic.com. Venue, on-sale and pre-sale details (as they become available) will be posted on the front page of www.duranduranmusic.com.
DATES:
Apr 28 Brasilia, Brazil Nilson Nelson (Tickets on sale now)
Apr 30 Rio De Janeiro, Brazil Citibank Hall (Tickets on sale now)
May 02 Sao Paulo, Brazil Credicard Hall (Tickets on sale now)
May 04 Buenos Aires, Argentina Luna Park (Tickets on sale now)
May 05, Buenos Aires, Argentina Luna Park (Tickets on sale now)
May 08 Santiago, Chile Espacio Riesco (Tickets on sale now)
Jun 25 Wroclaw – Poland (venue tba)
Jun 27 Prague, Czech Republic – O2 Arena (Tickets on sale now)
Jun 28 Budapest – Hungary – Papp László Budapest Sport Arena (Tickets on sale now)
Jul 4 Berlin – Germany (venue tba)
Jul 6 Thessaloniki, Greece – Earth Open Air (Tickets on sale April 5th. Pre-sale tba)
Jul 9 Istanbul – Turkey (venue tba)
Jul 12 Belgrade – Serbia – Exit Festival (Tickets on sale now. No Pre-sale)
Jul 14 Ljubljana -Slovenia (venue tba)
Jul 16 Verona – Italy Verona Arena (Tickets on sale now)
Jul 18 Roma – Italy – Foro Italico (Tickets on sale now)
Jul 20 Cattolica – Italy – Arena Della Regina (Pre-sale March 30th at 10am local time. Login www.duranduranmusic.com and visit the European Pre-sale link)
Jul 21 Lucca – Italy – Piazza Napoleone (Tickets on sale now)
Jul 23 Carcasonne – France – Festival de Carcassonne (Tickets on sale now)
Jul 25 Monaco – Monaco – Sporting Club (Details tba)
Jul 27 London – England (venue tba)
Aug 8 Saratoga, CA (venue tba)
Aug 9 Saratoga, CA (venue tba)
Aug 11 Costa Mesa, CA (venue tba)
Aug 12 Tucson, AZ (venue tba)
Aug 15 Catoosa, OK (venue tba)
Aug 17 Memphis Botanical Gardens Memphis, TN (Details tba)
Aug 18 Hard Rock Hotel & Casino Biloxi, MS (Details tba)
Aug 19 Atlanta GA (venue tba)
Aug 21 Durham Performing Arts Center – Durham, NC (Pre-sale now at United States pre-sale link at www.duranduranmusic.com)
Aug 24 Mashantucket, CT (venue tba)
Aug 25 Atlantic City, NJ (venue tba)
Aug 28 Kettering, OH (venue tba)
Aug 29 Ravinia Festival Highland Park, IL

** NOTE: Stay tuned for information regarding additional shows as they are confirmed. Always check the NEWS page under the band photo at www.duranduranmusic.com.
** NOTE: If a date (above) is not yet on the official website it will be soon. We wanted our members to be the first to have this information.
** NOTE: Unfortunately we do not have ANY information about cities not listed here. If we receive information it will be posted on the TOUR page
Looking forward to seeing you at the shows!
DD VIP

More on our reaction tomorrow!!!

-A

Shadows on your side…we’ve got INFORMATION on summer tour dates!

It’s Thursday morning and I have news to share on this beautiful, non-headache filled morning. (it’s honestly cloudy and gray in So CA…and I hear the band are soaking up sun and water in Sydney…what’s up with that?!?)

Today’s blog was originally entitled “He can’t dance and so can you!” (If you’re a Stephen Colbert fan, you might chuckle.  If you’re not then, well…I sound like an idiot.) That blog has since been pre-empted for the following breaking news:

(so this part isn’t the breaking news….)
I was in the car headed to drop off my son this morning to school and broke his “no music” rule for in the morning.  I should explain that he’s on the autistic spectrum (he’s high functioning though and you wouldn’t even know he was on the spectrum if I didn’t tell you), and if there is one thing that gets him in a horrible mood quicker than anything, it’s music in the morning.  He’s a grouch in the morning, and to him, pop music is just a bunch of noise.  I think his brain has a hard time with organizing it all first thing in the morning.  I’m sort of the same way – I like peace and quiet (which is IMPOSSIBLE in my house) when I first get up. We listen to talk radio in the morning on that 10 minute drive to school just so that there’s relative peace in the car.  Anyway, this morning I broke the rule and had Shadows On Your Side on.  I have always loved that song – in fact it’s probably one of my favorites off of Seven and the Ragged Tiger (SATRT for those Duranese speakers out there…)  Little did I realize that the song would be indicative of the day ahead.

(Here’s the breaking news!)
I’m sure many of you have seen the little love note that was posted on the band’s website this morning.  If not, you can find it here:  (there’s a link for those of you anal Duranies out there that don’t believe a single thing unless you read it directly on the band’s website – I know you’re out there!)

I’ll give you all a second to read through the dates.  Go ahead…you know you wanna!


March 29th, 2012

Hello
We have received numerous requests to give fans an idea of where the band will be this Summer. Unfortunately we are still confirming exact details but wanted to let you know the cities we will be visiting so that you may plan your travels. As soon as we have details they will; be posted in the TOUR section of the website. As soon as additional cities and dates are confirmed we will update the list.
Expect an email with details soon.
Thank you,
Duran Duran
Sat 23 Jun
Sun 24 Jun
Mon 25 Jun Wroclaw – Poland
Tue 26 Jun
Wed 27 Jun Prague, Czech Republic
Thu 28 Jun Budapest – Hungary
Fri 29 Jun
Sat 30 Jun
Sun 01 Jul
Mon 02 Jul
Tue 03 Jul
Wed 04 Jul Berlin – Germany
Thu 05 Jul
Fri 06 Jul Theseloniki – Greece
Sat 07 Jul
Sun 08 Jul
Mon 09 Jul Istanbul – Turkey
Tue 10 Jul
Wed 11 Jul
Thu 12 Jul Belgrade – Serbia – Exit
Fri 13 Jul
Sat 14 Jul Ljubljana -Slovenia
Sun 15 Jul
Mon 16 Jul Verona – Italy
Tue 17 Jul
Wed 18 Jul Roma Foro Italico – Italy
Thu 19 Jul
Fri 20 Jul Cattolica – Italy
Sat 21 Jul Lucca – Italy
Sun 22 Jul
Mon 23 Jul Carcasonne – France
Tue 24 Jul
Wed 25 Jul Monaco – Monaco
Thu 26 Jul
Fri 27 Jul London – England
Sat 28 Jul
How about that lovely London date on Friday, July 27th. Hmm….I wonder what could possibly be going on in London on that date! Opening Ceremonies for the Olympics, anyone?!? The plot continues to thicken….  
Just prior to London, they are playing in Monaco. Monte Carlo. I have to say, if there was one place I’d love to see the band (there are approximately one million…but just stick with me here…), it would be there. If only I were independently wealthy, I’d just tour the summer away!  Wouldn’t you?!? Seems that there was another Italian date added as well for Cattolica. Sounds like Italy might be the place to be for the latter part of July!  
Back to those US dates…I know that we’re all chomping at the bit for information. We see Europe getting some attention, and like the jealous, overwhelmingly obsessive fans we really are (Admit it.  Acceptance is good!), we want our own, and we’d like them now please. I agree completely. It is sometimes very difficult to remind myself that most of the time under normal circumstances we don’t even have presales until May or even June for dates in late summer – and it’s pretty clear that the band will be coming to the US for a short tour in late summer (August). One thing Daily Duranie does know – thanks to Amanda who keeps track of this sort of thing – we typically get dates 6 weeks to 2 months in advance (not advance of presale, but in advance of shows taking place). I know it’s difficult, but we’re going to need to wait just a little bit and defer to the band’s management on this one. We’ve got time, even if I’m biting my nails down to nubs in the process.
Daily Duranie also knows, via some “super sleuthing”, (sarcasm is ALWAYS intended!) that both the Durham, NC date as well as the Chicago Ravinia date were announced in advance in part (if not wholly) due to the venue. In both of those cases, the venue wished to have their own presale for their membership. Each of these venues has a donor or season ticket holder program where people can buy seats to a block or package of shows. Typically these types of venues announce entire seasons worth of shows at one time so that their patrons can buy tickets. In both cases (Durham and Ravinia), the Duran Duran concert is available as an extra ticket that can be purchased by donors. (as opposed to part of a package). In the case of Ravinia – I think the venue went to press extremely early with news of the show and it came as a complete surprise to band management. It happens. The patron presale for that particular show has already taken place, and truthfully I have no information as to what will happen with regard to DDM presale at this point. In the case of Durham, DDM had their presale earlier this week (Monday) – I believe tickets may still be available,  and the Durham patron presale took place yesterday. The whole point here being that these two shows were announced under unusual circumstances.  
Our readers should know by now that Amanda and I are all about being fair. That means we give props to the band (and the Machine that runs the band – Blame the Machine, get it? *sigh*) when deserved, and we’ll also gladly take them to task as needed. We’re fans just like anyone else, first and foremost. In this case, the band and their management deserve a huge thumbs up for the effort. They gave fans information that they didn’t have nailed down, and a thank-you is in order. This is a big step in the right direction. Naturally, I’ve seen a bit of backlash this morning from US fans. I get it, and I have to think that the band gets it too. The trouble is, we are not the sole people in this fandom.  Contrary to popular belief, it isn’t ALL about the US. There are many other people that want their moment with the band, and that’s OK. Our time will come. In fact, we’ve already hosted the band here twice in this tour. While yes, I still feel there’s room for improvement (isn’t there always)? It would be completely unreasonable of me to expect the US dates in their entirety this early. That said, I have faith the dates will be announced soon. The real question will be if we’re given more than 18 hours between the announcement and the presales.  (I beg the powers of be on that one for all of us. A couple of days would be outstanding!!  A weekend would send me over the moon. Any longer than that would be ridiculous.) 
I implore fans to really think the situation through. Have any of you organized a tour – much less a tour encompassing several continents – before? I have not. I have enough of a time getting my kids ready and out the door on time each morning, thanks. While in no way am I saying that the band is perfect about the announcements, I am saying that it’s not a case where they’re not listening and they don’t care. They are, and they do. The olive branch of “here’s what we’ve got so far for Europe” is proof. It’s a start, and we’re all partners in the same cause: we love the band. I think it’s great that fans who are planning to go to Europe can really begin to plan. Hug the band for Daily Duranie if you get a chance!! They won’t know who you’re going on about – but that’s OK!
Oh, and we’re still not being paid by the band! Promise!  I just like what they’ve done and I’m not afraid to give a little. We’re partners (like it or not!) and I’m not here to bash.  
The shadows really ARE on your (our) side today.  Happy planning, everyone!
-R


A Diamond in the Mind (or what I call a potentially really good idea!)

Day 3 in the diary of a headache.

Ok not really. Well, this isn’t the diary, anyway. I am sitting here at my table, trusty mug of coffee (second mug of the day, which *never* happens here) within reach…and not a single writing inspiration has come to mind. I hate when this happens. So, I reached out to the only people I know for topic ideas. Some of which were downright amusing! (and you can bet I’ll be writing that critique of a certain bandleaders dancing very, very soon!) I already have the title in my head…

But for today my friends, we’re going to talk about fandom. I hear the cheers and I thank you.  (A little sarcasm to start my day.  Ah yes.)

Seriously (a word I use far too often but don’t care enough to change today) though, Amanda and I have been kicking around an idea for a few months now and it’s really high time to share our thoughts. Not that many years back when DDM was first started, the idea – well the idea that fans had anyway, was to create a real community. Does anyone remember back when VIP tickets gained you entry to a pre-show party? A little known truth about me: I liked them. I liked feeling a little special, to be honest. That said, I’m one of those people who loves valet parking. I love having my bags taken to my room rather than schlepping them myself…and if there’s a side entrance somewhere that I have access to use that others don’t, it makes me smile. I suppose I am exactly whom DDM wants to market those VIP tickets….too bad I’m not a DDM member these days, isn’t it?!? ANYWAY, my point is simply that while the party itself might have been a smidgeon on the lame side, the idea was good.  The party allowed concert goers to chat, visit, take photos with long-lost friends, and at least the idea was supposed to make us feel special. The key for me though (besides feeling a bit exclusive and pampered) was the feeling of community. At that point, DDM went to the trouble to set up Duranie “dorms” – basically calling a hotel and getting a group rate so that interested parties could take advantage. This served several purposes: it directed many DDM members to the same hotel so that plans could be made, parties could be set up, and as a bonus – many of us could get kicked out of hotel bars. Good times. It also tended to deter people from staying at other hotels that may or may not have housed members of the band.  *gasp!* I can’t honestly remember how many times my friends and I took advantage of the “dorms” (maybe only once or twice?), but I really liked the idea. So many times after a show we’re looking to get together with friends for drinks – none of us are ready to call it a night after such great shows – and having a central place to hang out and continue the evening seemed perfect. Sure, I know as well as you do that many want to go and find the band, and that option is always available, but for those like me who rarely know when or where – hanging with friends seems like the more viable alternative. I’m sure the band appreciates that.

Unfortunately, somewhere along the line – the whole sense of community has been lost.  Naturally, this isn’t ONLY due to the mechanics of DDM, but it’s something that Amanda and I both feel could be improved, which is where she and I come in. Part of the reason we started the blog was because we felt that there needed to be a place that topics could be discussed without judgement. Sure, there are times when we all disagree. That happens. It shouldn’t mean that we can’t find common ground, and in our case – it’s the band. No matter what each of feels about the guitar players over the years, the management, the choices in singles, promotion, etc – we all still love the band. That’s enough to build on, and is the other part of the reason the blog was started. We want to bring fans together. We’re not all going to be best friends. That isn’t the point or the goal. If the paid “official” fan community can’t see past the dollar signs enough to build a community, we can do it ourselves….and better because we know what it’s like to be a fan.


I can’t speak for everyone, but it’s become clear to me that unless someone stands up and decides to bridge the gap between the DDM mechanics of getting to a show (i.e. buying tickets) and what it really means to be a fan and enjoy fandom, our community is lost. While the show themselves may never completely lose their luster, the other half of what makes it fun to be a fan will be gone. The shows where I have gone by myself with my husband are fun, but there’s something very special about attending a show where there are other friends in attendance. I have as much fun in planning the before and after get togethers as I do in plotting how I’m going to get my escape from my house!  I am a fan.  Amanda is a fan.  We know what we like, and we’re betting that our thoughts aren’t going to be all that dissimilar to yours.

To begin with, we’re waiting for US concert dates.  (We’ve got to start in the US purely because it’s where we live and what we know) It’d be great if the band would work with us on this and send them – but seeing as we’re just fans trying to do the work that their own fan community has completely dropped the ball on – we’re not counting on a single thing except our own determination. (However, if somebody wants to send us some hints, we’ll gladly take ’em and get our planning started so that we can seem organized….*wink, wink*) Once we know the dates of the shows, we really want to work to get “dorms” set up if there are people interested. In addition, we’re going to set up more meet-ups for fans, whether they are before or after the shows, and we’re going to have fun even if it kills us.  We want you, our friends, fellow fans, readers, etc….to tell us what, where and when.

(I’m pretty certain Amanda is going to love that last sentence.)

No, we’re not getting paid by anyone. No, we’re not getting free tickets to the shows. No, we haven’t lost our grip on reality, quit our jobs or sold our possessions (and as such no, we’re not going to be able to be at every single show. We need your help!)  We just want to make this community fun again. That’s it. If you have ideas, want to help out or just plain want to bitch at us – email us at dailyduranie@gmail.com or leave a comment.  You know we’ll answer you!

Watch this space…

-R

PS – we’re going to do something different on the blog, and by different I mean that YOU can ask US questions.  Have something you’re dying to ask?  Send us an email, talk to us on Facebook, send us a Direct Message on Twitter (otherwise we’ll miss it).  Amanda and I will answer your questions on an upcoming blog.  By “upcoming” I mean in a week or so – no DuranTime here – so get your thinking caps on and send us some creative questions!

The lesson to be learned is the point of no return

I don’t think I’ll ever get too old to learn a lesson, and yesterday was no exception.

To begin with, there was the little matter of a presale. I snuck onto Twitter to see how the presales were going, only to see that tickets appeared to have sold out rather quickly. I hadn’t heard from Amanda, so I figured she checked presale availability to find that the tickets did not meet our parameters. . After figuring out that I’d somehow logged myself out of my email and missed Amanda’s first four emails of the day, I saw that while many of our friends on Twitter had gotten their seats for the Durham show, Amanda had come up empty.  Sure, she might have had third row seats in her cart for a moment and thrown them back in a fit of greed for more – but the presale had somehow sold out. Or had it?

I really wasn’t angry or even disappointed by the lack of tickets. I knew we had several options available to us, including coming to our senses, realizing that this show was clear across the country, and deciding to wait for better (and closer) shows. I decided to go ahead and blog for the day. I no sooner finished the final sentence of the blog when my phone rang. It was Amanda, and she was calling to tell me she’d gotten tickets after all.

After I picked myself up off of the floor, I realized that she was telling me that she’d gotten tickets and that I’d be flying across the country. I also discerned that I would need to get my husband very, very drunk at some point during the summer and only then would I tell him about this upcoming adventure!

She decided to keep checking Artist Arena, and realized that if she waited, tickets that might have been placed in someone’s cart weren’t always bought, and those would get thrown back into the mix of available seats. She just waited until she found tickets that interested her enough to buy. The trouble was, where were our seats?  Due to a difference in the seating charts that Artist Arena had verses what the venue had – it has been very difficult to understand where our seats are located. I’ll save you all the agony here and just say that after careful thought, our seats are in the second row of orchestra. Or maybe the fourth row.  Either way, we’re sitting on Dom’s side. Yes, again. We didn’t intend for that to be the case, but you know – Things Happen! With all of our talk about being calm, not buying any seats as a typical “knee jerk reaction”, and trying to be methodical about planning what shows we’d attend and how we’d get from place to place – when it came time to go through the sale, all of our sanity went right out the window. Amanda did a great job with the tickets.  She didn’t give up (I SO would have), she waited (I’m horrible about waiting), and she even inspected the seating chart before buying (my typical M.O. would have been “There was a seating chart?!?”). She really thought she knew where we were buying, but because she was in a classroom and couldn’t exactly block out her students – and because she couldn’t really call and converse directly with me, it made buying the tickets much more difficult, and perhaps we bought tickets that we might not have purchased under normal circumstances.  Not sure that anything we might have done would have changed what we ended up with, but we did learn that being greedy isn’t good!  So now we’re destined to be Dom’s super special stalkers once again…

Which brings me to lesson #2 for the day.

In my excitement over our ticket purchase, I posted a note on Dom’s wall.  I really don’t know what I was thinking – only that I thought it’d give him a chuckle. I’m just a fan like anybody else. Naturally though, other people, whether they are also fans or personal friends of his, don’t know me. They don’t care that I’m a fan. They just see that I’ve posted on his wall before, and that I’m posting again. They don’t realize that I’m happily married, extremely well-educated, that I know my husband is lucky to have me (no really, he is!), and that quite honestly (and not at all humble of me) – I’m a catch. (Of course after I tell my husband about this North Carolina show this may all very well change and I may find myself very much available and not nearly so much of a catch!!) People don’t know that I sat across from Dom on a plane many years back and that I am likely to be one of the first “fans” he made from his tenure with Duran Duran. Amanda and I held up his very first sign at a show. (you can see this in our slide show at the right side of the page)  Most importantly or unfortunately for this particular person – he had no idea that I’m a blogger. He had no idea that I’ve written articles for other websites besides my own, that I’m in the process of finishing a book, or that he was going to end up being the “star” of my next blog on Daily Duranie. (Hey, “name- whom-I’m-choosing-not-to-make-public-out-of-complete-KINDNESS-because-other Duranies-would-tear-you-limb-from-limb-for-being-a-jerk” Congratulations and enjoy your 30 seconds of infamy!!)

**Note to readers: I really don’t intend on continuing to wield the blog as a weapon – this particular instance just happened to provide a teachable moment, I promise!!**

None of that matters on Facebook to people who don’t know you. They see you post regularly or try to interact and come to the obvious conclusion that you *must* be a stalker.  That said, I don’t deny my obsession with Duran Duran.

I am in my forties and write a DAILY blog about being a Duran Duran fan.  That “stalker” thing? That ship sailed a long, long time ago. It’s funny, and I know it. I embrace the funny! However, I do deny the term “Frumpy”..and don’t even get me started on the whole “Old” comment. In fact, had the less-than-wonderful person who wrote that comment been standing in person right in front of me, I can’t honestly guarantee that he would have remained standing for long. Not only am I not frumpy, I’m not afraid to stand up for myself however needed. Regardless, I was completely and utterly mortified. Sure, maybe I should laugh the episode off and pretend it meant nothing, but the fact is – I am completely embarrassed, even this morning. This didn’t take place on MY Facebook page, or MY blog or MY message board, but on Dom’s. His Facebook page isn’t the place for those kinds of comments, and the idea that a post I’d written caused such a thing completely floors me. I can’t even begin to apologize enough for that. I’m a big fan of Dom and the last thing I want to do is cause him trouble. Don’t like me? Jealous of me? Want to make fun of me? Post on my page. Send me an email. Message me on Twitter or Facebook, but don’t be rude on someone else’s wall.

So I learned a valuable lesson yesterday. While I can laugh ruefully at the idea of being called a frumpy old stalker, the truth is – that’s not how I wish to be viewed. It’s funny how you can befriend people that you’ve met maybe one time (if at all!) from all over the world, post on their page and it’s seen as just being friendly. Do the same on a celebrity’s page and it’s taken completely differently – even though they are all just people like you and I. I post on Dom’s page the way I would any other friend, for the most part. I just never thought it was that big of a deal and I certainly wasn’t posting anything that could be construed as my making myself “available” to him. It wasn’t ever like that. The lesson here is that if you post on a celebrity’s page, regardless of whether they recognize you and are friendly with you or not, it’s seen as a desperate attempt for attention. You’re seen as a deranged fan. A stalker.  

After thinking the entire situation over, I really think there are more lessons to be learned here. I might have mentioned that those comments didn’t come from a fellow female fan.  I think I might have expected that, actually. Women can be horrible to one another, and in our particular fandom, there’s a certain competitive nature that takes right over at times.  It’s not classy or pretty, but it exists. This person who called me out was actually male. I have no idea if he’s a fan or not, but he made it very clear that he was sick of seeing women post on Dom’s wall. Never mind that the guy also posted on Dom’s page. Never mind that he also must have been reading his page somewhat regularly to even know I’d posted, because that’s somehow different. Why – because he automatically assumed that because I’m female I’m “after” Dom as opposed to just being a fan of his music? In and of itself that’s pretty fascinating because it doesn’t seem as though he quite understands the whole “celebrity thing”. I’ve ran into my share of male fans though (of Duran Duran and otherwise), and while they are typically kind people for the most part, I’m always a little surprised to see how differently they view things. Men tend to believe that the only reason to be a fan is for the music, and to a large degree – they don’t seem to think that women can grasp the concept.  While it might very well be “cool” for a guy to like bands and things – women can’t possibly like bands for the same reasons. We’re much too “silly” for that. We can’t possibly understand the technical nature behind the music because we’re too busy having fantasies of John Taylor to even begin to understand the intricacies of music. There’s a definite stigma to being a female fan, and in the situation I encountered yesterday – that particular fan made his point very clear.

How will I do things differently? Well, I’ll think twice before posting again, sadly – and maybe I needed to learn that lesson. I suppose I was very naive. As I explained to some friends yesterday, and this is a feeling I’ve read over and over again from other female writers, bloggers and journalists in the music industry: I want to be taken seriously. Sure, I’m a fan, but that doesn’t mean I’m ready to hop into bed with any musician or roadie I can find. (Sorry boys) I have a great time at shows. I have fun when I’m out with my friends, but never does that mean making a play for a member of any band.  When I’m home, the blog (for me) is as much a part of my fandom as it is a part of my burgeoning career as a writer. The last thing I want is to be summed up as a groupie, a stalker or be taken less than completely seriously about my writing. Respect is key. Most of the female fans I know feel very similar. Having fun at a show, or going out with friends before and afterward does not equate to being a groupie, nor does it mean we would even invite the opportunity.

Especially from jealous male “fans”.  

-R