When I think about my personal life, met means that I have been formally introduced to the other person. I have given my name and received the other person’s name in return. In many cases, we have exchanged a handshake. I would then be able to address the other person by name and the other person could address me by name. Yes, obviously, there are situations where a mutual friend does the introductions, which is the same idea. In real life, it means a lot more than seeing the other person. For example, I know by name most of the people who work in my school. I can address them by name and vice versa. We often greet each other in the hall with a simple, “Hi. How are you?” Yet, there are people I work with that I see on a frequent basis whom I have never “met”. These are people that I might learn their names but still would feel weird just going up to talk to them. If, for example, we had to collaborate on some project, when I approached them, I would introduce myself before getting started. Yet, it seems that my definition of meeting is very different when it comes to Duran Duran.
Some fans seem to define meeting the band as seeing them some place other than the stage. This sighting could be right outside the venue as they enter or exit. It could be that they were spotted at an airport or some other public location. It might be that they passed you when entering or exiting a bar or hotel lobby. Then, other fans, describe meeting the band as when words are exchanged. In that definition, it does not matter if you stated your name or not. It is just that words were exchanged. Like the previous definition, this exchange of words could take place in or out of the venue, in a public location or at some place the band might hang out at, like a hotel or bar. The exchange of words could be quick like, “Great show, blank band member!” I would assume, for this definition, that the chosen band member would need, at least, to respond with something even if it is just a thank you.
Are these definitions good enough? Do they adequately describe a meeting or is there more to a meeting? Should a proper meeting include an exchange of names? The chance for an autograph and/or picture? I think that the fandom should work to come up with an universal definition so that people aren’t confused like I am when answering this question. Should the definition be as broad as possible so the largest number of Duranies can claim having met them or should it be a narrow definition so that fans will continue to work for a higher quality exchange with the band? What do you think the definition of meeting the band should be? Then, based on your definition, have you met the band? At what moment did you know that it was a legitimate meeting?
To answer my own question: Yes, I have seen the band off the stage. Yes, I have exchanged words with all of them, except for Dom or Andy. Yet, I, personally, don’t know that I feel like I have met them. I never exchanged names, except for when John asked me my name at a cd signing. I never had the chance to get a picture, which, sometimes, feels like I’m the only one who hasn’t had her picture taken with one or all of the guys. (Although, I did get a picture with Nick with a friend. I would like one with just me.) Maybe I don’t want my experiences to count so that I still have something I’m working towards, some goal to meet. Maybe no experience will be good enough unless I feel like there was a real exchange. I don’t know.
So, readers, I ask you. What is your definition of “met the band”? Do you think that everyone agrees with that definition?