Today is one of those days where I have a million things to do and about two hours to finish them before I become a chauffeur for my 3 children. In between my driving, I need to clean the house, do the laundry and cook dinner….almost impossible. That said, today’s blog is going to be short and sweet.
I found a YouTube video (aptly named Bruce Springsteen vs. Your Husband) yesterday – I swear the person who created it was eavesdropping in my house the last time Duran Duran toured. It’s word for word (sans the language) how any discussion involving my touring goes with my husband. I am having trouble getting the video to inbed here properly – so here is the link…if I can figure out how to get it to work here, I will post it later when I have a free second.
The fact is – as I mentioned above, I have three kids and 5 schedules to try and work out before I go on “tour” so to speak. (the idea of MY being gone for a week is ridiculous. The longest I’ve ever been gone has been 5 days – and my husband swore that wouldn’t ever happen again. We’ll see dear.) I have to start planning nearly a month before I ever get on a plane or in my car to go anywhere – and the schedule that I have to leave behind for my husband to follow is color coded, marked in red, highlighted, crossed out….and he typically follows NONE OF IT. My kids go absolutely crazy, and they are typically begging for my return about 3 hours into my trip. They love their dad, but I’m the one that keeps the ship afloat around here, and the kids know that.
One would think (one who isn’t obsessed with a rock band, anyway), that if it were this much trouble to tour – that I’d just give it up and see them when they were here in town and convenient. The fact is, and this is the one thing the video misses – is that it’s really not about the band anymore. Yes, I love going to their concerts, and yes, I enjoy getting the little bit of interaction that I have with them when they’re up there and I’m close enough to the stage to enjoy. However, when I go to see Duran Duran, it’s also “Girls time”….something I don’t have at all here at home. For the short time I’m “on tour”, I only have to worry about myself. I can actually let down my hair a bit, I can eat first without having to make sure everyone else is served and settled, and I can have a full conversation with my friends without it being interrupted half a dozen times. I get back a small part of the person I was before children, a husband and responsibilities beyond myself – and that my friends, is golden.
So that’s why *I* tour, and that’s why it’s worth the effort. Yes, it’s about the band, but it’s also about me.
Last night, I saw a new “rumor” posted on the Duran Duran Message Board about Duran playing a show in South Africa in October. Interestingly enough, there is also a thread on the fan community board about whether or not the band should tour now or after the new album has been released. This thread includes a poll so that Duranies can indicate their preference. Surprisingly, only about two-third of the Duranies who answered wanted them to tour now. I don’t think this would have been the case a few years ago. 2006 is a good example. It was right after an extremely heavy touring year and in between albums. People were excited to go see them at any of the dates during the fall of that year, even though no new music would be played. What is different now? Perhaps, the fans burned themselves out by all of the shows they went to. Maybe, they are interested in other bands. Their lives might be filled with other things right now. Maybe they really do just want new music as they are sick of the setlist always being the same. Obviously, there can be a variety of reasons for people to not jump at the chance of shows right now.
The Duranies who indicated that they wanted shows now, new music or not, often expressed what was experienced earlier in the week on this blog. There is something special about a Duran show, especially when the band is “on”. For the authors of this blog, good Duran shows provide a high like no other. The shows can provide two hours of non-stop singing, screaming, dancing, laughing and, if you are really lucky, a moment or two of interaction with a band member or two. Of course, I have often said that Duran shows are like 3 shows in one (preshow meeting, show itself and post show fun with your close friends). Shows give us a chance to meet other fans or see people we haven’t seen in a long time, which usually happens in a preshow get together or dinner. After the show, while on the high, we find fun wherever we can. ;D The whole experience can be summed by a quote from the song Astronaut, “There is nothing gonna ace this.”
I would love to see Duran play a show or two in South Africa. I realize that I would not be able to attend those shows as they are too far away but they would give me hope that they would be coming closer to me before too long, new music or not!
I think I’ve possibly sunk to a new low in using a line from my least favorite Duran Duran song ever as a title.
That said, my point in using that line was to bring up touring, or in this case – a lack thereof!! Yesterday it was announced by duranduran.com that they are going to be doing two UK dates with Mark Ronson, the producer of their next album which is still being mixed at the time of this writing. After cursing briefly, I thought about how long it had been since I last saw them. You would think it had been 12 years based on how much I’ve complained recently, but the truth is – I last saw them in July of 2009. Yes, that was just last year, and yes, I DO realize that I could probably get therapy for this affliction that I seem to have.
The truth of the matter is, touring is like my drug. I’m completely addicted to it as long as the music is good and the crowds are supportive. I’ve been to shows where the crickets in the building have been louder than the audience on hand, and those shows can take the wind out of you like nothing else. I’ve also been to shows where the audience has been so wicked crazy for more that the pure rush I get out of just standing there almost brings me to tears at the end of the night when the band leaves the stage. I walk out of the venue with enough energy to keep me going the rest of the night into the following morning – which I HAVE done before – and I’m ready for more the next night. It’s those shows that keep me coming back for more. It’s a high like none other that I’ve ever experienced, and I’m happy to say that it is a Duran Duran show where I’ve had that high the most often. The interesting part of this whole equation is that it is absolutely not every single Duran Duran show where I get that incredible rush or high. I’ve walked out of some Duran Duran shows almost completely deflated, and some others – I’ve just felt “eh”. So, that makes the chase even more interesting, and even more so like an addiction. When you first take a narcotic for the first time, regardless of what it is – it takes very little to make its effect known, and typically the high is so great, that every single time an addict chooses to take drugs again and go after that high – they are truly chasing after the same high they experienced the very first time they took the drug. It may take more of that drug to create the same experience, and it’s likely even more frustrating when the high isn’t as intense. For me, this silly band provides the exact same experience. So, when it’s been over a year without a decent show in sight – keeping in mind that I have been to a couple good concerts since my last Duran Duran show – asking if anyone is a little hungry almost seems like a tease!
Today I ventured over to the fan community to see the boards and read what’s been going on, and it appears that I’m not the only one chomping at the bit for a Duran Duran show. There are more than a few that would love even ONE show to go to, and naturally – most of us are here in the good old US of A, where the band is NOT doing shows with Mark Ronson. Of course, I don’t think anyone really faults the band for playing the UK and we certainly don’t blame the UK fans for being excited – they should be! I just think we want our turn. Over, and over and over again like the truly addicted folks we are.