I think that most Duranies have experienced some sort of negative reaction about the fact that they are fans of Duran Duran. I know I have. Some of the negativity is directed at the band. “Why would you like them? They aren’t any good. They don’t care about the music. They just care about what they look like?” Some of it has more to do with my desire to tour. “What a waste of money! Aren’t all the shows the same? Why do you feel it necessary to go to all those shows? Aren’t you going overboard? Isn’t that a bit obsessive?” I could go on and on. Sometimes, people go a different route with the disdain of my being a Duranie and outright ask, “Are you a groupie?” They aren’t meaning someone who just follows the band, people. The assumption that a female who goes to a bunch of shows is going for one thing and one thing only, the ultimate autograph. I’m willing to bet that most male Duran fans aren’t questioned about being groupies, but maybe there are other questions that they have to deal with.
How are male Duranies treated? Do they have to deal with the general anti-Duran statements? Do they have to put up with negative statements about going to shows or buying albums? What specific negatives do they hear that female fans don’t have to put up with? Of course, some of you might be saying that guys don’t have to deal with much of this because they don’t show their fandom as much and don’t do as much touring. First of all, I don’t know that if that is true or not. I’m willing to bet that there are a lot of male Duranies who show that they are fans and many also go to a bunch of shows. However, if guys don’t show that they are fans as much or don’t go to as many shows, I would ask why. Do they feel like they have to hide the fact that they are Duranies? If so, what do they think will happen? If they don’t go to as many shows as they want, why not? What’s stopping then? Then, I wonder how they are treated by the female fans? Do they get negative reactions from female fans? Are they dismissed as unimportant? Ignored?
I’m hoping that some male Duranies will chime in here and answer some of these questions for me. I would like some education about what it is like to be a male Duranie and to see if they experience some of the stigma I know I have dealt with!