Fight it, or Invite It

Honesty

Yesterday morning, I received a text from Jason, letting me know that he’d posted the blog. (check it out here if you haven’t yet!) Somewhat cryptically, he mentioned that he hoped it wasn’t too rough. The guest blogger he’d worked with was open and candid with regard to her feelings about the videos they’d reviewed. He wanted an honest reaction, and judging by what I read, I believe he received just that.

I replied saying although I hadn’t yet read the piece, I wasn’t concerned. Following up, I told him that I valued honesty, and looked forward to reading it in a few minutes.

After making the drive to school, I pulled into a parking spot and grabbed my phone. He’d sparked my curiosity, and I found that I didn’t want to wait until I got home. As I read both his parts and those of his guest, I chuckled in more than one spot. I found Aurora Montgomery’s comments to be refreshingly genuine. She delivered them with a humorous approach that I aspire to incorporate into my own writing.

One particular sentence about “Electric Barbarella” made me cackle. “This robot woman exists and dresses solely for them, and from the beginning it was my sincere hope that she would end up murdering the band before the video’s close.” Brutal honesty. I like it.

Cuteness and condescension

Over the years, my writing and open opinion have taken a bit of a roller coaster effect. From love letter to brutally cynical, gushingly cute to overly critical, I don’t know if I’ve ever stumbled upon the magic formula for writing. It is difficult to compose a fan blog each day knowing in the back of your mind that many will never take you seriously. I’ve gone from being embraced to shunned in just a few keystrokes. Consistently though, I’ve remained honest.

When we invite guests to share their opinions, we accept that not everyone is on the same page. In the case of Aurora Montgomery, she’s not even a Duran Duran fan. Instead, she is a respected professional. I don’t think it has to be a given that a critic dislikes everything Duran Duran has done. However, I respect that her point of view will be vastly different (and unbiased) from my own.

Remaining unbiased is difficult. There is no denying that someone like me, a (nearly) lifelong fan of Duran Duran, is going to have a certain amount of emotion leading my opinions. The idea that somehow, on a blog named Daily Duranie, we would be unbiased is laughable. Fellow fans have commented saying that our blog is cute, following up by saying we’re so biased and fan-girly. All of the above delivered with just a bit too much all-knowing condescension to be kind.

Emotion is a complication

I tend to react by grimacing, knowing that there’s little I can do to change the perception. It’s irritating. On one hand, if I didn’t have any emotion for Duran Duran, why on earth would I write every day about them? On the other, I stopped being “cute” in about 1982. I realize blogging about Duran Duran isn’t changing the world. It isn’t going to solve the climate crisis, or find the cure for cancer. It is about music. Each of us who dedicate the time and energy to write here are fans.

Emotion is a complication. For me, it’s a constant struggle to find the sweet spot between having fun, acknowledging my fandom, while still exercising some critical thinking in the process. I love Duran Duran, but I don’t love everything they’ve done. That’s not likely to change, and that’s okay!

You want real?

I don’t live every second of my life worshipping the sand that Rio danced on. I still believe that Red Carpet Massacre was a half-hearted attempt to stay in the good graces of a label and remain relevant. That doesn’t mean I don’t love Rio. I’ve found several songs on Red Carpet Massacre to enjoy.

Paper Gods wasn’t an “instant like” for me. It took me months to come to terms with it. I did eventually bond with several songs, and there are more than a few lines of lyric on there that feel very much like they were written for me. Personally though, I think their best has yet to come, they’ve just got to find it. I hope they don’t give up before it gets written.

I was never a Warren fan, and and would like to slap the fans who grovel at his feet while he puts down Duran Duran whenever and however possible. It’s gross, and by the way—geniuses don’t typically need to go around reminding people that they are, in fact, genius. I still don’t like the fact that they don’t have a dedicated guitarist – even if that guitarist isn’t Dom. Do what you gotta do, but find someone who you’ll agree to having as a band member that has an actual relationship with you and your music. If pressed, I’d tell you that the one element they’ve been missing from their recorded music is a good, emotive, rock guitar that is the polar opposite of the synthesizer line. That goes across the board, from Seven and the Ragged Tiger through to Paper Gods. Bam. Those are my opinions, even if you don’t like ‘em. Real, and unapologetic. Yet, I’ll still be among the first to shout from the rooftops whenever Duran Duran needs. Go figure.

Emotion doesn’t make it unworthy

All of those opinions come with forty years of emotion, and ten years of blogging experience behind them. Does that make them any less worthy? Not to me, but please— you decide on your own. Even a music critic writes with emotion. Critics love music, even if they don’t love the album or even the band they’re reviewing at the time.

For the record, I think the video would have gone better with your suggested ending, Aurora. There’s some emotion for ya!

-R

9 thoughts on “Fight it, or Invite It”

  1. I remember when I was in high school when the song “Electric Barbarella” by Duran Duran was released in 1997. When I watched it’s music video, I thought that video was so bizzare, and I did not understand the concept of that video! Thankfully, I was a Spice Girl fan during my teenage years. Thanks for sharing this blog about Electric Barbarella.

    Has anyone seen Duran Duran’s Tweet on 01/23/2020? DDHQ mentioned Simon where he attended the Jean Paul Gaultier Haute Couture Spring/Summer 2020 show as part of Paris Fashion Week at Theatre Du Chatelet on 01/22/2020 in Paris, France.

    Here is the link to the Tweet:

    https://twitter.com/duranduran/status/1220504726103564291?s=20

    And here are the links to the articles about the fashion show:

    https://www.vogue.com/fashion-shows/spring-2020-couture/jean-paul-gaultier

    https://www.standard.co.uk/lifestyle/esmagazine/the-winners-of-couture-fashion-week-ss20-rachael-dove-a4346656.html

    What do you guys think about the fashion show and Simon?

    1. I did see the tweet about Simon at the fashion show, and I did make note that he’d attended. Beyond that though, I must admit – I didn’t have a lot to add. One thing I did notice from a number of other people commenting on his appearance was that many were questioning his own fashion choice for the day, apparently wearing a coat with a fur collar. The assumption was that it was real fur.

      Admittedly, fur isn’t as much of a hot button issue for me, but I live in California. When I lived outside of Chicago in the late 90’s, many of my coworkers wore fur coats on cold days. The world was different then, although to be fair, people were beginning to take offense to the idea. I tend to stand on the side that says it isn’t up to me to police what others wear. It’s not my business. I was just a little…curious? surprised? that fans felt comfortable basically yelling at Simon. I mean, do we know with certainty it was real fur? (Excuse my naivety) I just figure it’s up to him. I don’t wear it, but I do wear leather and I’m not going to be apologizing for that any time soon, nor would I put up with comments from others about doing so. I figure he probably feels similar. Fair enough.

      Other than that, Simon looks great, seems healthy and happy – and really, that’s good enough for me!
      -R

        1. If you mean the thing that was tweeted out about Bob Marley, it was deleted. Perhaps someone hacked his account.

          Yes, Simon…along with most people, I’d imagine…like being happy. 😀
          -R

          1. I’m going to approve your comment, LiveYourLifeVegas, but I have to wonder if you’re just cleverly spamming us with links. So, if you wish to comment again, and that’s entirely up to you, I will only post comments with links that have something directly to do with Duran Duran, and even then – it is at our discretion. The PETA article has nothing to do with Duran Duran. I encourage comments, but they really need to have something directly to do with the band. Thanks! -R

          2. I understand. The reason I’m just mentioning about this organization, is I just would like to say that thank goodness they did not police Simon’s fur coat whether or not they’re real. Thank goodness! 👍

  2. Please don’t apologize for putting your honest opinions into your blog. That’s part of why I read it’ I already know my opinions, and while agreeing can be affirming it’s the differences of opinion that bring about a deeper appreciation of fandom and the band we all love. That brings me to a weird problem.I comment fairly often, but a lot of times my responses are eaten by your spam filter. I’m a little uncertain what constitutes spam, aside from clogging someones site with content and I’m not savvy enough to use my word processing program never mind committing vandalism. I’d replied to the blog we’re talking about, I loved reading the views of an unbiased listener and even laughed at her wit.(We already know I love Jason’s blog). Anyway, curious if I’m the only one having this problem or am I just that offensive in my online speech?

    1. That’s weird about our spam filter. I don’t know what could be triggering it – and I haven’t seen your comments when I’ve gone in to delete what has been “caught”. I’m sorry that’s happening though! We’ve had great success with that particular plug-in, but maybe it is time for me to pay more attention to what is going on with it. I don’t want comments being eaten without good reason. 😀 -R

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