Today is a special day in Daily Duranie-land! It is Rhonda’s birthday!! I start looking forward to writing this blog about the same time as when I start pondering what to buy/make for her birthday! (Fun Amanda fact–I love giving gifts!!!) I want every birthday blog to be unique and special, including this one. After 11 years of friendship and 5 years of doing this blog, I have learned a lot about Rhonda and about myself. Most importantly, though, I have learned a lot about friendship!
By now, all of you have heard about how/where Rhonda and I met. Virtually, we met on the no longer in existence message board, duranduranfans.com. In person, we met at the Duran Duran Fans Convention called Friends of Mine in September 2004. Besides our mutual love in Duran Duran, we quickly discovered that we enjoyed having fun on a night out and laughing!!
From there, we discovered that we both LOVE, LOVE, LOVE talking about anything and everything Duran Duran. In fact, when others seem to tire of the conversation or got other interests, there we were–still talking, still thinking, still analyzing. We understood that we truly loved the band in the same way and for the same reasons. Kindred fans.
Then, we discovered that our similar fandom philosophies carried over into touring! Once we toured together, we knew that we had found our touring partners for life! It seems to me that a lot of people can be friends and be good friends, but it takes something special to be able to travel together. The two of us have been to many places around the country and to the UK twice. We have been on planes, trains and automobiles together. There have been many, many, many hotel rooms throughout our friendship history. Traditions have been established and we fall quickly into routines when on tour together. It is like we were born to tour!!! In fact, I would go so far as to say that touring is really where we are most happy. Of course, a big part of that is seeing those litle Duran Duran concerts but it is also where our friendship comes alive and gets renewed!
Of course, we didn’t stop there with just conversations about Duran Duran or going to see the band on tour. No…we had to do more! So, I said, “Let’s write a book about fandom!” Rhonda said, “Cool! Let’s do a daily blog, too!” And this little entity was born! This monster, this beast, this larger-than-life thing is more than just a book or a blog or a website or many social media handles or meet-ups or conventions or a message board. It is something much much larger than the sum of its parts. No matter how we describe it or define it, it is truly our baby. We gave birth and have nurtured it all along the way. It has grown and developed and we couldn’t be prouder.
Life, though, is not always smooth or perfect. There are bumps along the way, especially when turns are taken. At those times, when bruises are fresh, our friendship, our bond and our fortitude has gotten stronger. Why? Simple. We have each other’s back, no matter what. I have often thought about the friendships between the guys in Duran. They have experienced the ups and the downs of life. Throughout it all, they have managed to be able to work together, to create together, and to be friends together. It seems to me that this gift is really rare. How many people can say that they can work with their best friends? How many people can travel with their best friends? How many people have stuck with their best friends through all that life throws at them? I suspect the number is really pretty low. This is why I know how special my friendship is with Rhonda and I assume that she feels the same about me.
On this day, the anniversary of the birth of my best friend, I find myself feeling like the person who has received a gift. I got the best friend I could ever ask for. She is someone who makes me laugh and laughs at my wacko sense of humor. She is someone who shares my passion for Duran Duran and is willing to work her ass off right along side mine to show that love and devotion through everything we have created together. I couldn’t ask for a better touring partner-in-crime as we certainly know how to have fun together and always will and, most importantly, I couldn’t ask for a more loyal friend. She will always have my back and I will always have hers. We will always, always be there for each other. Truly, we share in this gift of friendship.
Happy Birthday, my dear friend! I absolutely wish that this is the best year of your life (until the next one!) and that you experience nothing but joy, laughter and fun as well as a little/lot of Duran Duran!!! Love ya lots!!