It wasn’t that long ago when I questioned just how rough their schedule really was. Fans were telling me how tired they were mid-May, and I felt, that this is their job. Albums don’t sell these days. Tours make money. This is just part of the deal and of course they know that. I still do feel that way, but I also feel that pushing 5 shows a week isn’t easy, especially over the course of 20 months. It’s not the getting up on stage and playing that hurts, it’s the traveling AND pushing five shows a week that will do the damage. I can’t tell you how many times Amanda and I have said that we wish the band would just stay put in cities for a day or two before pushing on – mainly out of our own selfishness because we’re sick of driving – but it’s true. None of us are young anymore. My mom keeps telling me that I’m burning the candle at both ends when I tour. (Maybe so, but it’s damn fun!)
I’d like to address the rumor-mill at this point. STOP. I have heard some of the lamest, most ridiculous, heartless and cruel things in the past 12 hours – and I am nearly positive none of us really have the right, the information or the knowledge to be saying anything beyond what we’ve been told thus far. I don’t need or want to read that your second cousin is friends with Nick’s second cousin who has an uncle that works in the janitorial department of the hotel in Atlantic City and he overheard another worker say to a bum on the street that Nick was helicoptered out of the hotel. I don’t care that you work in a hospital that once did blood work for a Nicholas Bates and he has a drug problem AND a heart condition. The bottom line is that A) it’s none of our business and B) We don’t know a single thing for certain. Let me just say, even Daily Duranie gets bad information. Yesterday evening just before the news was announced I got an “anonymous” text saying that the show was canceled. So I jumped online to see what was going on. In my personal FB mail I got messaged that the show was canceled, but that people were furious because none of the band ever left NYC, and it was left up until 45 minutes before showtime to call off the gig. I was curious about that information, but honestly – I know nothing of the inner workings. I mentioned this to a few people to get their reaction (in private), but about an hour later – I see that Dom Brown AND Simon were at the hotel in Atlantic City. So much for the band never leaving NYC, right? So who really knows for sure? Not me. Not you. All we can do is have faith in the fact that the band would never allow Nick to get up on stage only to hurt himself, and in the end he will be fine. Anything else is not helpful.
Seems silly that I have to give a pep talk – but in this case I feel that I must. We have had an incredible album and tour. Our community is more united now than ever. We have seen the band extend themselves back to the fan community, and we’ve held out our hands in return. We stick together, through good times and bad. That is a lot to be thankful for. Now isn’t the time to spread rumor and speculate publicly – it’s the time to provide support, care and concern. Daily Duranie has no more or less of an “inside track” to information than anyone else, but we feel confident that if more information becomes available, we will gladly pass it on to everyone else. Until then, let’s take a moment to truly be thankful and appreciative of everything we DO have. We have great albums, fantastic memories of times long since passed. We have had the joy of seeing this band come back from the brink of disaster more than once, and I have to say – this band has outlived a good many if not most of its brethren. I have to believe they are good for more, and so should you.
Things we can do? Keep up the good spirits. Be positive. Be supportive. Many of us have put Nick’s photo as our cover photo on Facebook, avatars elsewhere. Let’s unite instead of dividing based on who thinks they know what. It’s tiresome, and quite honestly – we’re all way too old for that these days. Keep the people traveling to the shows in our hearts and minds, and understand that for these people, it’s a tightrope between being sad for Nick and heartbroken for themselves…and that is totally understandable.
Until tomorrow. Keep the faith, Duranies!!