As stressful as my life is right now, I’m thankful that my husband and kids tolerate Duran Duran. It gets played in my car, it’s talked about in the house…and while I take a great deal of teasing and ribbing from my two kids about the blog, whomever my favorite member might be, and the amount of time I spend going to their gigs, I think they’re all pretty amused by the whole thing. Rather than being a source of contention, it is taken with good nature most of the time. My husband will even email me links to articles he’s seen about the band (although typically I’ve already seen them – gotta love his effort though), and – he’s the reason I’m able to go and do much of the traveling I’ve been able to experience. That doesn’t mean our relationship is perfect or that he is understanding 100% of the time (or vice-versa!!)
Not all Duranies are quite so lucky, though. Kitty Amsbry (Gimmeawristband.com) suggested we do a blog on this topic because there are so many of us who have families that, for whatever reason, don’t share our joy for all things Duran. Imagine that?!? There are many times when I read things about how some fans can’t even play the music in their homes because their husbands or significant others don’t share their enthusiasm for the band. Still others can’t go on trips to see the band (even if it’s only a couple hours drive), or stay overnight – and not just because it is financially unfeasible. How does this not become a point of real resentment? How do those fans deal with those problems? I know that many female fans have this issue, just watching the video of Duran Duran vs. the Husband from YouTube will drive that point home!
Is it really that easy for everyone? Probably not. What do you do??
In my own case, there was a time when my husband was less-than-supportive. It made the entire issue – my fandom – so much less FUN and a lot more WORK. I was determined not to let him “win” though, and I desperately wanted my own space. I really am not sure what finally began to turn the tide, although I think just time helped. He was never against Duran Duran though, and I have to say that in some of these cases I have to wonder if the problem really is Duran Duran, or if that is just a symptom of a much larger problem.
No matter, fandom is supposed to be an escape, and when the methods of that escape are being controlled by someone else, it is bound to create resentment. How to handle such a thing? I really don’t know – but if you have any ideas or thoughts – post away.