So maybe you have heard that Rhonda and I have shows coming up in 2019. Yes, I admit that we are very fortunate. I acknowledge the fact that there are many, many, many fans that are nowhere near as lucky. I wish that every Duran fan had shows to look forward to. In thinking about this, I’m going to take a minute or two here to simply be grateful that, at least right now, when it comes to Duran, I’m lucky. Lately, I have been feeling like anything but in the rest of my life. Life has been hard. I have spent much of my energy just working my way back from holes of unhappiness just to “okay” status. Happiness is not a word I use or have used for a long time. Needless to say, I need some joy.
When the three shows (one in New Orleans and two in Vegas) were announced, I did not hesitate to pass that information on to Rhonda in an “official Duranie alert” capacity. When the information popped up, I didn’t stop and think about any potential negatives. For example, I wouldn’t say that we had a great time at the last show at the Chelsea in December of 2017 due to a giant standing in front of us blocking our view and a number of potential fights almost breaking out. I chose not to even think about a repeat of that show. Likewise, I didn’t stop and complain that these shows were once again in Vegas. While I’m able to get there, I admit that it would be nice for me to not have to fly. The Midwest, I hear, is lovely! (Hint!) Just sayin’. I heard that some fans questioned whether or not the setlist and performance would be much different from the Paper Gods Tour. Nope, that thought did not really enter my mind. Why is that? I suspect a lot of it is my need for joy but also just being grateful that I will get another show, another weekend with friends.
I have been thinking about how life was ten or even a few years ago. I have to admit that I remember myself complaining about various things, including work, politics, parents, etc. Looking back, I clearly didn’t realize how lucky I had it. Sure, there are always things that can be improved, made better, fixed but I wish I understood then that things could also be a lot worse. In hindsight, I don’t think I appreciated how good life was then. Things felt easier. No, they were not perfect but better than they are now as so many aspects of my life have just gotten tougher, harder, more challenging.
Funny enough, when thinking about Duran, I am willing to bet that I did the exact same thing. When I look back to different eras like Astronaut and All You Need Is Now, I have a lot of fondness. Some of the best memories and moments took place during those album cycles. Yet, if you read this blog in 2011 and 2012 or even 2013, you probably didn’t see me being super grateful. In all honesty, I suspect that there might have been some criticism. While I still think that there can be room for improvement when it comes to Duranland, I no longer am or want to be the person that picks out all of the band’s flaws. No, they are not perfect. Yes, they could grow in multiple ways. But I have a choice. Do I want to just complain or enjoy what I have?
Sure, I could vent some frustration over Ticketmaster because it truly does suck or spew continued annoyance by the lack of setlist changes. Those would be valid criticisms. Yet, I have so many other things to worry about than every little crappy aspect of being a fan of this band. Instead, I would rather embrace the joy, the fun, the friendship, the escape that Duran shows and tours brings. So, you won’t hear me complain about the setlist or the venue in February. No, I’m just going to be dang happy to be there.