Today is my birthday and last night I had a few Duranie friends over. We had a great time! Food and beverages were consumed. Duran footage was watched and much discussion took place surrounding our experiences as fans as well as plans for the upcoming show in Chicago in August. This is really just what I needed for a variety of reasons. First, my life has been ridiculously busy as of late. I’m sure that if you have been reading the blog regularly, you probably would have seen that written by me a number of times. While I was telling the truth in those previous blogs, this time has some added stress to the busy life I’m leading. I won’t go into details as that is not the focus of this post. The point being that I was happy to have a reason to stop focusing on everything else and just have some fun. Last night was a complete escape from the reality I’m living in. I needed that, emotionally and mentally. Of course, some of you might point out that I spend time on Duran everyday. While that’s true, last night wasn’t about my commitment or responsibility to this blog, to our book or to the fan community as a whole. Last night was just about fun with friends. Duran happened to be the connection. Our discussions about Duran made everything else flowing through my head stop. When we watched various clips from different eras, we could laugh at Simon’s dancing or at the silly fashion choices. Even when slightly serious discussions surrounding Duran came up, we quickly moved on as something else would catch our attention. Perfect. Duran became the escape once again.
Second, I was reminded about how much I like Duran. I know that sounds silly, especially from someone who blogs, posts daily questions about the band, and posts today in Duran history. Yet, even through those activities, I forget. I focus on the details, on what I need to do and not necessarily on the reason for these activities. Anyway, over the course of the night, watching clips with other fans, listening and exchanging stories increased my excitement for the band. While not all of the clips we watched were fabulous or showed Duran at their best, many did. The clips reminded me why I think their music is great, why I became a fan in the first place and why I stay a fan. I was reminded that while they don’t always hit the mark, a lot of the times they do and when they do, they are simply the best around. I think I needed to take a step back to see that again, to be reminded of that again.
Lastly, I was reminded that one of the best parts about being a Duranie is other Duranies. As great as the band is, it wouldn’t really be any fun without other fans! My love for the band increases every time I’m around other fans as I get to see their love for the band. We encourage each other to be fans and to stay being fans. This is how fan communities come into existence and stay. We are united in that love. We share that love. In many cases, this love starts the beginning of great friendships. It obviously did years ago with Rhonda and myself. It did with some of the other fans I have met throughout the years and I hope it will with the fans I have yet to meet.
Thus, last night, I was reminded about what fandom really is, about what Duranland really is. It is about a fantastic band who have provided us fans with fabulous music, with an escape from reality, and with a connection with other people that can and often leads to real friendship. Today, I’m thankful for the band and thankful that I’m a Duranie. Glad that I was reminded of this last night!