It is amazing how much Duran Duran news one can miss in a week. I’ve been on vacation for the past week, which has both been wonderful and incredibly isolating all at once. Aside from brief glances at my phone to see that all is well, I spent my week concentrating on real life…and it was wonderful…and today I am catching up.
I did see that in my online absence, Duran Duran played New Moon on Monday (Yes I know it was just a portion. I don’t care, I’ll take it!!), Love Voodoo (Surprised by that choice, I must admit), and Only in Dreams (A favorite of mine from Paper Gods…envious of those who have seen that one!) By all accounts and reviews I’ve read as I try to catch up on Duran Duran news this morning, it would appear that the UK tour is going very well so far. Even when Simon tweeted a picture of a very damp and dreary Cardiff this morning, all I could think about was that I wish I were there too. I hope everyone who is attending the shows is having a fantastic time! Seeing the band on tour, watching them perform songs from Paper Gods as well as the older material somehow helps to validate the time we’ve spent as fans, and allows us all that time to celebrate.
Validation as a fan is important, and we all seek it in a variety of ways, whether that is through photos with the band, or a smirk or grin from a band member. Maybe its a pair of drumsticks, or a signed piece of memorabilia. Maybe its knowing everything there is to know about the band itself and being able to recite and correct such information at will. There is something to be said for feeling as though your time has been well-spent, and there really isn’t anything wrong with that, unless seeking that feeling of self-importance overrides good sense. I’ve seen fans argue tooth and nail over the finest of detail, from the covers of albums to the dates that members have exited the band. I’m all for spirited debate, despite what some may think – but at some point, it all becomes a little silly. What difference does it really make if a version of the band began in 1978 when their first album didn’t actually come out until the 80s? Are we going to start characterizing the band as being from the 70s…now….some thirty years later??? I don’t think so. Sometimes the intense need to prove ones worth through trivial knowledge overrides good common sense.
My husband and I have had a similar argument over the years as I’ve been an active Duran-fan online. He’s noticed the amount of time and energy fans will spend correcting and one-upping each other with regard to band history and experiences, and he used to say it was our version of a pissing contest to prove our importance – as if there’s a trophy at the end. I would get so angry with him, saying that it wasn’t true and that fans were better than that. The trouble is, the longer I’ve engaged online, the more I see that he might have a point.
Is it really going to make a difference whether I’m right or wrong about a blog I’ve written? After all, as I’m frequently reminded…”it’s just an opinion“. Probably not. Roger Taylor isn’t going to show up on my doorstep, no matter how I feel about one issue or another. There are no trophies for “Best Fan” to be awarded at the end of this journey. I know what kind of fan I am, and my feelings aren’t going to be any more or less validated by what other fans say about what I’ve written. Those are hard words to accept and follow, but we move on. I also know that no matter how much I think I know, someone else probably knows more, and that’s OK. I think we could all (including me) stand to have a little more patience, a lot more understanding, and treat one another with a little more respect and kindness. We’ve all earned that much.