After yesterday’s blog, I saw and heard a number of comments about the timely of the song. Many people did not realize that John had been using back in 1982. Before I go further, though, it is worth noting that he wasn’t the only one in the band. Other band members have admitted to using drugs and many of them still drink. I also feel it necessary to note that I’m not judging John or any other member. That said, while other members of Duran might have used, as far as I know John is the only one to have gone to rehab and is now clean and sober. This, of course, leads me to wonder what was different about John. How come his use became an addiction? How come it didn’t happen to the rest of them? Obviously, I don’t have the answers, but I suppose that I could speculate. Was John more likely to become addicted? The only thing I could guess here is what I sense about who John is. I have heard people describe John as intense, that he doesn’t do things half way. Perhaps, then, this applied to partying, too. I don’t know. It also seems to me that John isn’t naturally comfortable, socially. Even now, he seems to be the member who is least likely to go out of his way, in person, to interact with the fans even in situations removed from partying. For example, John typically heads back to the hotel immediately after a gig. He doesn’t greet the fans outside venues. I have also heard that he isn’t very social during meet and greets. Maybe he is uncomfortable there. I don’t know. I even find it interesting that he uses twitter so much. Perhaps, this is a safe and comfortable way for him to interact with us. Therefore, maybe, his substance abuse started by him using to be more comfortable in social situations or be the life of the party that people assume rock stars are. Again, I don’t know if any of this is true and is just me guessing. I’m also not judging here, especially since I, too, can be intense and can be uncomfortable in social situations. Anyway, just some of my ideas about maybe why he started using to begin with and why he got addicted and the others didn’t.
Then, I wonder why John was able to battle his addictions and others aren’t. Did he have enough people or the right people around him to give him the support that he needed? Did it help that he decided to become clean when Duran wasn’t in the spotlight as much? Did he have the right motivation? If so, what were his motivations? We know now that one of the motivations he had for quitting smoking was that he kept getting sick and that non-smokers don’t get sick as much. No matter the reasons behind him entering rehab, I think it absolutely is a testament to his character. He wasn’t afraid to get the help he needed and isn’t afraid to admit that now. On top of that, he has been successful. I can only imagine how much strength it takes to fight addiction, especially since it is something that never completely goes away. He must remain committed to being clean and sober everyday.
I suppose, in the end, it doesn’t matter what lead John down the path to being addicted to drugs and alcohol. It doesn’t even matter why he has been successful in fighting his addictions as long as he keeps doing what he needs to do to be clean and sober. What does matter is that he has the strength to keep fighting and how lucky we are that we still have him and the rest of the band. Deaths like Whitney Houston are extremely upsetting and tragic. While I don’t have the answers for a death so young, what I can do is appreciate what I do have and support my idols in their quest for healthy living and long life.