Yesterday, I found myself in a coffee shop with my former student teacher and a couple of students of mine. As we sat, chatting, I found myself commenting on the songs being played as they were mostly songs from the 80s. One of my students asked me how come I knew all the songs. She assumed that I was someone with a beyond normal amount of knowledge about music. I explained that I am nothing special and probably a ton of people my age could name the songs, too.
This statement, of course, led to more questions about why that would be the case. I explained that in my generation we did not the options to pick and choose our music very much. We had radio, video shows like Friday Night Videos and MTV. In order to hear our favorite songs, we just had to tune in to one of those and wait. This meant that we listened to a lot of songs/artists that we did not necessarily like but it also meant that our generation has a more unified cultural experience surrounding music. We learned all of the songs being played at the time because we were a captive audience. I explained to the kids that while this sounds terrible, it really wasn’t. The music gave us something in common–a frame of reference, something to always talk about. Now, as an adult, I feel like it unites me with others around my age.
As I left the coffee shop, I started to think about what my music would have been like if I had the choices to pick and choose the way kids today do. Some people could just hear music right away and decide if they like it within seconds. I have decided that I’m just not that way. I need to hear songs a bunch before I really know whether or not I like it. Then, of course, once I do decide that a song is fabulous–watch out because I will listen to it non-stop. One example of this was Depeche Mode. When I bought one of their albums as part of one of those Columbia House deals to buy 7 cassettes for a cent or whatever it was, I listened to it once and thought it was weird. Too weird to listen to. Then, I had a friend who talked about how cool Depeche was so I gave it a few more listens. Soon enough, some of the songs got in my head.
Really, Duran Duran was no different even as a kid. I probably heard a song like Save a Prayer at least twenty times before I got it in my head and decided it was fabulous. It even took awhile before I would call myself a Duranie. I liked a lot of their songs before I knew that I loved the band. The same thing is true with new music of theirs that comes out today. Sometimes, the first few listens don’t do it for me. Whenever I try to respond too quickly, it doesn’t go well. I think Rhonda would probably say the same. This is one of the mistakes we made with the Paper Gods album. We wanted to review the songs so badly, we forgot that we need time. Now, in thinking about that conversation with my students, I have to wonder if the need for multiple listens is common among my generation.
My original belief that I am glad that I grew up when I did stands, at least when it comes to music. While I am sure that there are a lot of songs and videos that I wished that I could have skipped to get to the next Duran track, I’m glad that I couldn’t. I believed that I found a lot more songs and bands that way that I wouldn’t have otherwise.