One year ago today, I saw Duran play at the Fox Theater in Oakland, California. Two years ago today, I left for Chicago to begin my summer Paper Gods tour. As I sit here in my living room, I am thinking about how quickly time has flown by and how much can change in a year or two.
July always represents the middle of summer to me. I’m no longer trying to grasp a schedule or let go of the baggage that typically follows a school year. I’m not worried that the next school year is around the corner or that my to-do list is still way too long for my liking. In thinking about Julys of the past, each of them give a different flavor. Three years ago, my mom was battling breast cancer and my summer was spent taking her to chemo and trying to clean up my parents’ house to sell it. Then, two years ago, the Paper Gods tour took up the big focus. Last year, when I attended the shows in Oakland and San Francisco, I can now recognize how I used those shows in an attempt to grasp any joy and fun I could. I needed that. I needed that more than I knew.
In thinking about the two shows and that weekend as a whole, I have fond memories. I remember drinking wine with Rhonda both the first night in and at a fabulous Italian restaurant for lunch. Those times weren’t wild and crazy but appreciated. Then, there were the wild and crazy times dancing at the Cat Club. (No comment from my friends…) The shows themselves were amazing despite the little or not-so-little things that didn’t go well. For Oakland, we managed to be upfront due to the Telegraph Room that I had researched and had contacted both Ticketmaster and the venue itself to get tickets for. Somehow, I survived that day while having one of the worst hangovers in my life. San Francisco resulted in middle of the venue location, which served us well, too. Yeah, in thinking about that weekend, I cherish the little moments like a wave in a hotel lobby or painting shoes lime green.
Now, there are no shows on the horizon. There are no plans for fun besides getting together here and there with local friends. In some ways, I desperately wish that I did have something to look forward to, to keep me going. On the other hand, part of me feels that it would just be distraction that I cannot afford right now. In looking at my upcoming calendar, it is filled with political events and activities. Soon enough, I will be running weekly events to try and reach local voters. Election Day 2018 is just around the corner. On top of all that, I have to be available for my parents.
In thinking about the past summers as well as the present one, it is funny that I think of them all through the lens of what Duran is doing. While there have been some activity with things like private events and documentaries this summer, overall, it has been quiet. It almost feels like the powers that be understand that as much as I would love to have some fun Duran related plans, that I’m needed elsewhere. I can only hope then that they will be ready with something amazing just when the time will be right for me. I have a feeling that it will be the most amazing, special time. Something tells me that I will really need it then.
We got a birthday present of sorts this week! Yes, a new Katy Kafe was posted on DuranDuranMusic, the band’s official fan community website. This month features our favorite drummer, Roger Taylor! So, I was forced (yeah…sure) to sit down, take a listen and give a little report about it on here. As always, I’m giving some of the highlights along with some of my thoughts about those highlights. In no way, shape or form will this blog post include everything that was mentioned. If you want to hear the whole thing (and I know you do), head over to DDM and treat yourself to a membership.
Katy started the conversation with a question about the current mini-tour that the band is on. Roger went through each show and stated how great each of them were but then commented about how the band is on their way to Singapore this week. He told a lovely story about talking with his mother and explaining that this is the end of the tour. Her response is one echoed by a lot of fans with something like “you keep saying that!” Indeed, they have! Katy mentioned the Hawaii show and indicated that there might be a contest about which states they have not played in. Do your research now, people! They finished up this part of the conversation with some discussion about the Asian dates. Apparently, the band could attend the Grand Prix, if they have want. (That’s an image!) Roger is looking forward to Japan as they haven’t been there for 9 years. Katy pushed him to reminisce in the early trips to Japan where Roger described it as an “intense” type of “fandom”.
Anniversary of Paper Gods
When asked about Paper Gods, Roger mentioned that the process took a long time but it was a creative time period resulting in one of their best albums in a “long time”. (I always want to ask what that means. How long is he thinking? What other albums is he comparing?) He also said that he would gladly work with Mark Ronson, Nile Rodgers and Mr. Hudson again. Mr. Hudson got credit to taking the album into a modern, contemporary, cooler direction, according to Roger.
The biggest piece of news is that Duran is planning to enter the studio before the end of the year! Yet, it won’t necessarily be an album but entering for a little bit of “fun”! (That caught my attention! I wonder what the heck they are up to! Guesses????)
Roger stated that the band appreciates that they are still going and that they have the fans that they do, which is a really nice way to end a Kafe! We appreciate you right back, Roger!
Overall, there wasn’t a lot of meat to this Kafe, other than the big news at the end. The band will be returning to the studio for something. Roger did say something about new music, but then also said that it might not be a new album. All of that intrigues me. What do the rest of you think that could mean?!
This is my final blog pick to round out the seven years we’ve blogged. I could have picked something poignant, or something that maybe encompassed my thoughts….there were plenty to choose from.
Nope. I went with funny.
I chose this blog because, when it comes right down to it – Amanda and I do two things: 1. We study fandom. 2. WE HAVE FUN. This post is about having fun, in all it’s glory. For the most part, we started this blog in order to have more fun. Amanda and I laugh a lot when we’re together. Through all of the hard times, the stress, the anxiety, and the rejections – the one thing we’ve worked tirelessly to remind ourselves is that this is supposed to be FUN. If it stops being fun, it’s time to stop.
I’m happy to report that it hasn’t stopped being fun. No, we don’t leave ourselves quite as vulnerable as we once did, and yeah – there have certainly been moments when we’ve needed (and given) ourselves a time-out, but I think the number one thing we’ve learned is how to blog on our own terms. When it comes to our love and willingness to give this band a rough time, we don’t mind putting it out there, and the blog below is a great example.
I still chuckle when I read it, and therefore, it’s worthy of a repost.
I’ll just close by saying that a couple of things haven’t changed in the seven years we’ve blogged: we are still fans, and somehow – Amanda and I have always managed to put our friendship first. That is how we’ve gotten through it all. We still have a blast when we are together, and we still love our own brand of antics. We’re delighted that none of that has turned our readers off yet. I don’t think either of us ever considered that we’d still be blogging seven years later, and keeping with that attitude – I have no idea what the future will bring. Two things I do know for certain: 1. We will still be fans in seven years. and 2. Amanda and I will still be friends and putting that friendship first. Anything else is a bonus. -R
Originally posted March 22, 2017
Sorry I’m so late with today’s post. Our morning was wild here, and the afternoon is not faring much easier, as far as time goes!
I think I’m still coming to terms with my weekend, which was amazing. Anytime I can spend the day out by the pool and see my favorite band at night is great, but there were some additional “happenings” that make this particular weekend even better than normal. Those are the things that make me smile when my day might be going rougher than I’d hoped, and help me sleep at night. Or not sleep, I guess. I’m just gonna leave that thought right there.
In any case, one of the funnier themes of the weekend was that Amanda had no interest in following rules. I probably need to be more clear about that. For example, I would never dream of, say, telling the band what to play.
Ok, that’s a flat-out lie. The one thing we didn’t do this weekend was tweet out our own super-special set lists! Normally I’m all about telling the band what I think and what to play. This weekend though, I really didn’t care. They could have gotten up there and played just about anything. I believe my expectations for the weekend were summed up like this, “All they have to do is show up, Amanda.”
So when they broke into Only in Dreams on the first night, it took me WAY longer than I care to admit for my brain to sort out what it was I was hearing. Then they followed up with Is There Something I Should Know.
OH MY GOD.
That is my favorite. My all-time favorite song. Ever. I nearly had kittens. It’s not as though I have never heard it before, but to have them play it without expecting it was even better. But then I knew something was missing. I kept waiting, and no, Planet Earth never showed. I can remember standing there beside Amanda thinking “Holy shit. She really IS going to have kittens!! And she blogs tomorrow, too!!”
So, she was really disappointed. No, the band can’t play their entire catalog, but Planet Earth has been a staple. I can’t remember the last time they didn’t play it, actually. I know she loves it, but I also recognize that sometimes, they have to do something to mix it up. Even so, I didn’t know what Amanda would do.
Fast forward to the following evening. We had a friend at the front and were talking to her during the show when Amanda saw a list taped down at Simon’s spot. Appropriately titled, “Palm Springs Agua Caliente”, she could read the set list from where she was standing, and I could see she wasn’t happy about what it said. On the other hand, I won’t look at the set lists before the show. I like being surprised, and I don’t want to know when it’s going to be over.
I liken this to Christmas presents. My sister used to go on a full-on hunt for the gifts when we were little. She would find everything and either be satisfied, or annoyed and disappointment at what “Santa” was going to bring. One Christmas, I succumbed to her urging. Using a swivel desk-chair to reach the door to our attic, I tried to find a set of skis I had almost NO chance of getting (and didn’t!) only to fall and sprain my arm because A. I am klutzy and B. I was using a stupid SWIVEL CHAIR. Not my smartest or proudest moment. Robin STILL teases me about that Christmas present hunt to this day. (I love younger siblings.) I learned my lesson. I prefer to be surprised.
Amanda looks up at me and says “It hasn’t changed.” I wasn’t surprised. This band (sorry guys), hasn’t necessarily been the greatest about changing up the set list from night-to-night lately. I didn’t know what to say, but Amanda was already digging through her purse, mumbling something about leaving a note.
WHAT? “Noooooo Amanda, you can’t!” I exclaim, half laughing. “What if they see it?!?”
The trouble is, I know when Amanda is determined, and she was. My protests weren’t going to stop the inevitable. She was going to leave that note, and there wasn’t a thing I was going to be able to do about it except laugh along with her. She found an envelope (our ticket envelope, no less) and wrote out “PLANET EARTH!!!” in big letters with a Sharpie. Great, but where to leave it? I figured she’d throw it up there, and within two seconds of the band getting on stage we’d never see the likes of it again. Easy.
Oh, Amanda had that figured out already. She was going to tuck it in with the existing set list. Amanda kind of climbed up and halfway laid on the stage so that she was able to work the note in and secure it. She hopped down, and shared a laugh with us(mine was somewhat more of a nervous laugh), we knew we were on our way. To hell, I’m sure.
I felt the blood drain from my face, and went to my seat. Surely they wouldn’t know, because (thank goodness) they don’t know our handwriting!!
Of course, now that I’ve typed this, it’s not secret.
(GOOD THING THEY DON’T READ THE BLOG, RIGHT?!?)
The band comes out for the show. I’m not really sure if Simon ever saw the addition to the set list, but I won’t lie – I giggled at the thought. No, they didn’t play Planet Earth, but I could swear I saw him look down at the note, and then look down at the two of us (three if you count our friend Suzie!) and narrow his eyes more than once. I immediately mouthed “I didn’t do it!” and pointed at Amanda.
Hey, if you can’t throw your best friend under her own damn bus….
and then White Lines began. Now – I love this song and by then, I felt strongly that we were going to experience “The Spit Zone” more than ever before. I was going to enjoy that guitar solo no matter what (and I did, thanks to Dom), but I was worried. I knew we were in front, and from the amount of smack we’ve given that band and particularly Simon over the years, he could let us have it. Again. Simon went back for his long drink of water, and came back with a mouthful – the kind of mouthful that was going to drench someone, really. I saw Nick smirking out of the corner of my eye and thought to myself, “Here we go!” I just looked down and felt the fire-hose worth of water spray onto the back of my head and arm. GAH. I looked up and just laughed because at that point, what else could I do?
I have a feeling we had that coming.
Turnabout is fair play. Until next time, anyway. -R
On the morning of July 14, 2017, I checked out a Tweet from Duran Duran regarding an interview with legendary Duran Duran frontman, Simon Le Bon on Hawai’i Public Radio with host Dave Lawrence. Duran Duran performed on July 16, 2017, in Honolulu, Hawai’i, and this was their very first concert performance in their entire music career in the Aloha state. So I went ahead and click the link from Duran Duran’s Tweet in order for me to listen to my big ’80s crush’s voice on the interview. I felt so excited. I could not wait to listen to his voice!
Simon Le Bon discussed his music and acting during his youth, as well as his start with songwriting before he joined Duran Duran. What really struck me (or I should say, ‘what really surprised me’) while listening to his interview about his youth are as follows:
Simon Le Bon’s Influence In Classical Music During His Childhood
Simon Le Bon started listening to classical music during his childhood in which he got influenced by his mother who liked to listen to that genre. I remember my childhood in the ’80s when I started listening to classical music on the radio. I got influenced by classical music from my father who, still to this present day, is a super fan of classical music from instrumental to opera. I have no clue if Simon really loves listening to classical music these days, but I love classical music! Every time I drive in my car or do house chores at home, I tune in to classical music on either FM or Internet radio. Classical music is part of my blood and family history. My grandparents from my father’s side, whom I never met, loved listening to classical music. Even my uncle, my father’s older brother, loved listening to it. Among my five older siblings, I am the only one who loves listening to classical music, and they do not. Whether listening to any kind of music or learning how to play a musical instrument or learning how to sing, classical music is THE very first step in learning music.
Simon Le Bon Studied Playing The Violin During His Youth? Huh?
REALLY!!? NO WAY!!! I didn’t know he studied how to play the violin during his youth. I thought he studied piano lessons during his youth, which is true as he did mention that during the interview. However, I was so surprised when he included the word ‘violin’. I hope Simon did not make this up. I am just curious to find out how old he was when he started playing the violin and how many years he played that musical instrument. I wanted to start studying the violin when I was either 8 or 9 years old, but I was not able to start taking violin lessons due to transportation & schedule issues. My mother could not drive, and my father was working a 9-to-5 corporate executive job plus business meetings Mondays through Fridays. I started studying the violin when I was 15 years old, and at the same time, I took orchestra class in my junior year in high school. I had to take private violin lessons, take a trip with my fellow orchestra classmates to compete for high school orchestra competitions, perform during recitals and school events. I played the violin for less than 2 years until I graduated high school in 1998. That same year after I graduated high school, I stopped playing the violin when I started my freshman year in college. Also, I learned from my father that my uncle took violin lessons when he was in grade school, but it did not last long for him either.
Simon Le Bon’s Influence In Singing
During the interview, Simon Le Bon discussed his influence in singing during his childhood, about his involvement in the choir, and about his amazing choirmaster. Simon mentioned that his choirmaster taught him how to read music properly, how to learn the theory of harmony, and how to listen to his ears. Simon fell in love with music, and it just came naturally for him. I started listening to music on the radio and watching music videos when I was very young about 2 or 3 years old. Even before I started attending preschool, I started singing in tune. I even started picking up the microphone and started singing with the Karaoke machine in front of my family and relatives. Oh, dear! I remember having my family’s first Karaoke event in 1985, the year of Africa USA and Live Aid! Even when I entered Kindergarten in 1986, I sang in music class in tune, while most of my classmates sang horribly and out of tune. I was so involved in singing in music class from grade school up to my freshman year in high school that I joined the choir. I didn’t take any voice lessons during my youth. However, I ended up taking voice lessons during my junior year in college.
My Opinion & What I’ve Learned So Far During Simon Le Bon’s Interview On Hawai’i Public Radio
In my opinion, I think the legendary Duran Duran frontman and myself have something in common when it comes to childhood influence in music. The only difference is Simon Le Bon has a lot of experience, and he’s been performing professionally for a very long time. During his youth, he got influenced by music, he started acting and became a thespian, and he even started writing poems and songs. Songwriting is not my interest and skill. And can you believe he even studied how to play the flute and a guitar when he was young? Wow! That’s what I really love about Simon Le Bon. He is a super multi-talented individual. I think talent not only comes naturally in a person, but it comes from a person’s heart. His mother was responsible for providing music. She even strongly encouraged Simon to sing and join the choir. Having very strong support from a talented individual’s parents is extremely important. I think his mother deserves huge respect and honor for supporting his gifted talent. In my side, I feel I did not receive enough strong support from my parents for my talents. Even though my mother heard my singing abilities when I was young, still she did not do something to help me develop my talents more and encourage me to join a talent show or choir. I just wish that my parents were so supportive of my talents just like Simon Le Bon’s mother. I will discuss my other talents aside from my music talents on a later blog. I hope that Simon Le Bon will read this blog and appreciate it, and I just want to say to him how I admire his special talent so much. I also hope that I will meet him some day, and I really want to thank him so much for being truly Simon Le Bon.
The ’80s SLB Fan was born in the early 1980s and is considered to be part of “Children of the ’80s” and “Generation Y2K” movement. Around 1983, she started listening to Duran Duran’s “Is There Something I Should Know?” on the radio when she was 2 years old. That same year, she heard the beautiful singing voice of Duran Duran’s frontman, Simon Le Bon for the first time. It took this girl several years until she was 19 while attending college which she ended up having a HUGE ’80s crush on Simon Le Bon. She is residing in Las Vegas, Nevada, and she is an actor, extra, model, and novice voice actor (known as voiceover). She grew up in a family who loves music, and her top favorite musical genres are classical music, EDM, and ’80s music. She official became a Duranie in 2000. Visit The ’80s SLB Fan’s blog site at the80sslbfanblog.wordpress.com, where you’ll find her blogs dedicated to Simon Le Bon.
Sometimes, I sit down to write and I have no idea what I’m going to write about. Other times, I have it planned out. Today, I knew exactly what I was going to write about and then…I get news that there is a new Katy Kafe out! I scrap my plans and opt instead to listen to the Kafe and report on the highlights here! I’ll save that other blog idea for another day. As always, when Rhonda or I report on a Kafe, we are only sharing some highlights and our thoughts on them. If you want to hear the whole thing and everything that is mentioned, I recommend getting a membership to Duran Duran Music yourself!
Nick talked about how he enjoyed going to the City Lights book store in San Francisco and how much he enjoyed the American Beat poets. I, for one, wish that we would have been able to get there to check out the book store for myself. That said, I did not know that Nick enjoyed that type of literature. Good for him.
The best line of the whole Kafe definitely had to be when Nick talked about how he looked out into the audience there and all he saw was a “sea of cowboy hats”! Yeah, that is not common at Duran shows! How funny!
Nick discussed how the shows have been great. He said that since there are not many of them, they have been “soaking up” every minute of them. That makes sense! He also mentioned that this is the first time they are playing in Hawaii and that there are not many states they haven’t played in, including Alaska, one of the Dakotas, Vermont, New Hampshire, Rhode Island and a few others. (For the record, Rhonda and I once thought about that as a goal–to see the band in every state until we realized that there are some states that Duran has never played in and some states they probably won’t ever go back to.) Interestingly enough, while the band has never played in Hawaii, Nick has visited for a holiday. Apparently, he, along with others this time, did visit Pearl Harbor, which he called “sobering”. Indeed. Nick has been taking photos, including the sunsets, even though he is trying to cut down on his photo taking to give himself a chance to create prints of the photos he has taken over the years. He might do exhibits and even sell some once he gets more prints made. (I bet there are Duranies who would love that!!) He even has a book of photos ready to go and is hopeful that it will be out before the end of the year!
When asked about Hold Back the Rain, he said that the band had gotten pressure by China Chow to put it in the setlist. Fun fact. I had no idea who she is, so I had to look her up! Guess I learned something new today and I thank her from all of the fans. On a different but equally random note, Nick has seen the Elvis concert from Hawaii. Alrighty then…
Future Concert Locations?
Nick mentioned that he would like to check off those missing states but that there are a lot of cities in Europe that they need to hit as well. He also would like to play in China and India someday.
Overall, Nick seemed in good spirits and enjoying his time in Hawaii. I wish there had been some scoop about the 40th and what they are planning or thinking of there, but no luck. Maybe next time!
I have been home for a few days now. The tour is behind me and has been fading since I walked on a plane super early on Tuesday. Since I have returned home, I have unpacked, completed laundry, gone to the grocery store and everything else needed to keep my household running smoothly. Physically, I’m absolutely here in Madison, Wisconsin. Emotionally, mentally, I’m WAY still on tour. I should know how to deal with that feeling since I have been on tour many times before, but this time it feels different.
When I came home in March after seeing the two shows at Agua Caliente in Rancho Mirage, part of me definitely felt a loss at saying goodbye to the tour. Another part of me was able to get right back into the swing of “normal” life. What is my problem now? Why the difference? In some ways, it should be easier now. After all, I am not working like I did in March. Last tour, I arrived home on a Monday and had to return to work the next day. This time, I have time to recover. I’m definitely still catching up on sleep as I had about 9.5 hours of sleep last night and an hour long nap on the couch. Maybe, though, the distraction of work was helpful. That could be. Still, I have plenty of things on my to do list. I should be busy and distracted. My to do list is failing me. Why?
I have been trying to figure out why I’m struggling with saying goodbye to tour so much this time. When I think about it, it comes down to a few things. First, I think part of it has to do with my friendship with Rhonda. Our friendship felt strained and distant from last fall until those shows in March. There are a lot of reasons for this but a lot of it had to do with lack of communication and processing some stuff individually. When I went to the shows in March, I wondered if it would be my last tour. I figured that we would have fun, but it wouldn’t be like it once was. The fun couldn’t last forever, right? Well, we had a good time and I felt better, that we were at least taking a step or two to getting back to normal. As these shows moved closer, the normal feeling grew. Then, this past tour happened and we are definitely back to our normal friendship–laughing at ridiculous things (like painting shoes green or sharing stories of crossing the border!). So, now that we are back to being the crazy, best friends that was always have been, I want to hang out more.
Then, of course, there is the band. The shows this past weekend were fantastic. Yes, I could focus on the setlist additions of Hold Back the Rain and Sunrise/New Moon as the reasons for the greatest of these shows. Obviously, having great songs played will make a show more fabulous but it wasn’t just that. The band brought it. The energy level was high. The interactions were a ton of fun and I couldn’t help but get into each and every moment even when I was dying of heat and annoyed at having bodies right next to me. The truth is that I started out both shows in a bitchy mood. I didn’t feel that great on Friday and on Saturday, I was ticked that the venue’s California Room was so lame. (Understatement of the year. Decade. Century. You get the idea.) Yet, the band managed to win me over. In fact, by the end of each night, the love for them grew. I knew others didn’t attend these shows because they felt that the set lists didn’t change enough and that they had seen them already on this tour. Likewise, I saw and heard fans complain about this or that. I tried really hard not to do that and it made all the difference in the world. My mind was open, then, to seeing every look, every point, every subtle move. I was able to absorb it all and that means the world to me.
In March, I knew before I left that we had more shows coming up. Now, I don’t have that. Yes, I know that there are rumors about shows in other parts of the world, but even if those rumors are true, they won’t affect me. There is a vast unknown out there. What will the band do for their 40th? Will there be dates? Will there be something else? I don’t know. I’m anxious to find out and wanting to be able to make some plans. I shouldn’t be. My bank account needs a rest. My to do list needs to get done. Emotionally, though, I would really like to know what is in the future. sigh
For now, I’ll look through my pictures of this past week and cherish the memories. I’ll also be checking the band’s social media as every tweet, photo, etc. gives me a little joy. Yesterday, for example, I enjoyed seeing the band is out sight-seeing. It reminded me of how Rhonda and I were able to take a bus tour around San Francisco. The plan then is simple. Think back to the fun I had. Hope for amazing things in the future. Enjoy every tweet/photo/post about the band in Hawaii and work on my to do list. Maybe then, I can get deal with the end of the Paper Gods Tour.
We apologize for the lack of blog yesterday. I’ll simply say that it was a rough morning, before we knew it we had to leave for Oakland… and we’ll leave it at that.
So, for your viewing pleasure today – Amanda and I did a video blog to talk about the show, and dancing with other people’s bodies against you….and heat.
We’re having a great time, but as always, it never seems like we have enough of it before it’s time to go home. Like I’ve said before, I just wish time would stand still or go a lot slower on tour. I hate the fact that we’ll be driving home tomorrow and for us, Paper Gods will be done and we’ll be back in limbo-land.
Yeah, not a fan.
There might be tears tonight. Hell, there were tears LAST night, but for different reasons. It’s been a rough (but at the same time wonderful) trip.
This is the last blog post before I leave for the latest tour.Yes, come Wednesday, I will get up at an ungodly hour to catch a bus to take me to O’Hare.From there, I will fly into LAX to meet up with my partner-in-crime to venture north towards the Oakland/San Francisco area for two shows.These shows, as you all know, are general admission which means that normally we would not even consider them.Yet, they are in California which works well for Rhonda and they announced these shows the morning after a fabulous show at Agua Caliente that we were at.We were weak then. We couldn’t say no!Nonetheless, I am absolutely certain that we will have a blast as always!Despite the GA format, I look forward to the shows and am anxious to see my friends!!
Now, I know what many of you are probably thinking.Maybe you are thinking about how lucky I am or how spoiled I am.It is common that whenever Rhonda and/or mention going to a show that someone comments about how jealous s/he is.I get that.I am jealous of those fans who will see them after these California shows.I am jealous of my niece right now who is in London.It is a common emotion.I also acknowledge that I am super lucky to have the opportunity to go.I am relatively healthy and have the financial means to do so.Everyone is not in the same boat.I honestly wish that everyone was able to go.Yet, in thinking about my fandom history, I have to acknowledge the fact that there is risk involved in going to shows, in traveling.
When I first got back involved in the fan community during the reunion era, I had never traveled to a concert for anyone.Yes, I had driven to a nearby city but I never even got a hotel for a show before.It was always drive to a show, see it and drive back.While I wish that I could argue that it was work or money that kept me grounded but in reality, it was fear.Yes, I didn’t have a ton of money then as I was finishing up grad school but I could have squeezed out money if I really needed it.I was working full time after all.Likewise, I could say that I could not travel due to those work or school obligations but that isn’t the whole story.It would have been challenging to get out of those responsibilities but I could have if I tried.After all, I do it now.
What was the fear?Was it fear of stigma or people talking badly about me traveling for shows?Not really.No, it was really two things.First, there is the fear surrounding traveling.I hate flying.I am a pretty logical person.Logically I get that flying is safe and the likelihood of a plane crashing is small.Yet, my logical part of my brain struggles to silence the anxiety part of my brain.Maybe some of this is that I was not on a plane until I was a teenager.Maybe I think too much about the bad things that could happen. On top of that, I worry about everything surrounding travel.What if I don’t get to the airport on time?What if my stuff gets stolen? What if something horrible happens at a hotel?I could go on and on.Then, the other big worry is the fear that I will be rejected by the people I am with.What if I travel with people and they decide I am a huge geek and never want to be near me again?Just last night, I dreamt that I was a party and had a falling out with everyone there.I ended up hanging out in the basement by myself.Again, logically, I know it is silly.Rhonda has hung out with me a lot.I doubt she will decide I am a loser now.Likewise, our friends who we are sharing a room with us have shared a room with us before.If they thought I was a loser, they wouldn’t stay with us again, right?
Looking back, I recognize that I had to take some big leaps from my own comfort zone to do the traveling I have done to see the band.I could have always made excuses.Even now, it might have been just as easy to say that I couldn’t afford to go.After all, I just came back from my sister’s in North Carolina.I usually can use work as an excuse, if I need to.Yet, I know it is super good for me to push myself out of my safe place to do what I really want.I think I have become a stronger, braver person as a result of taking the risks to travel to see the band.I still fight the anxiety but I believe it is worth it.
Quick little vlog capturing some of the highlights of last night’s Duran show at Agua Caliente. Some topics include the better crowd and energy, living in the moment, why these weekends are like reunions and why we don’t want to stop!
We apologize in advance for our tiredness!
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