I wanted to write about the latest Katy Kafe with Simon for today. Apparently, it features 20 questions from fans and Simon’s responses. Unfortunately, I don’t and haven’t had the time to listen yet. I promise, though, that I will as soon as I can in order to properly blog about it.
So, what have I been busy doing? Well, if you read the blog last weekend, you know that my dad was pretty sick. His illness continued throughout the beginning of the week until finally he was hospitalized on Wednesday where he still is. In fact, as soon as I get done with this blog, I’ll be heading back there. The good news is that they know what the problem is and he appears to be getting better. While I’m obviously relieved, this kind of event has shaken me. Here’s the deal. I don’t just simply love my parents but I adore them. I look up to them. While almost every person I know has some conflicted feelings about their parents, I do not. I benefitted from having my mom and dad as my parents as they raised me and my siblings well. They sacrificed so much for us and it is only right for me to return the favor now.
While I love my fandom and need it in my life, my parents will always come first. They will come before anything–my job, my students, myself, everything. In 1997, I moved to Madison, hoping that this city would fit me. In 2003, my dad retired and my parents chose to come to Madison to enjoy their retirement. This has benefitted me on every level. They, for example, take care of my cat when I’m on tour. There have been countless times that they have taken me to the airport when I have traveled to see Duran. I could go on with this list forever.
All that said, I couldn’t help but to think about Simon and how he recently lost his mother. Then, I think of other band members who have lost their parents. John’s autobiography, for example, captured his feelings about losing both of his parents. How do their jobs fit with family? I just got done saying that, for me, my parents come first and always will. Does the job of rock star, of musician allow them the same? I sure the heck hope so.
At times, I have pushed the band to speed up their work when it comes to writing and recording albums. While I didn’t mean any harm to that, at the time, now I look at it differently. They need to have the time to spend with their families, too. This doesn’t mean they ignore their jobs, but it does mean prioritizing. Yesterday, at school, I pushed through my classes but spent any extra time calling to check in on Dad. I fulfilled my duties, but my focus was still on him. Does the band have the same chance? Again, I sure the heck hope so as life is a pretty precious thing.
On that note, I’m off to see my dad.