So yesterday was quite a day. We went from sickly page view numbers that made me nervous last week to nearly 700 page views in a single day with a single blog. For us, that’s really good. We are not a widely read blog, as you might imagine, and we take our small victories as they come. While the jump is good and welcome, the reason for it really, really bothers me.
Last week and for several weeks prior, we’d gotten into a bit of a rhythm of talking up the wonders of being a fan. We can’t help it – we love being fans. We want everyone to feel welcome, to be happy and loved. Rainbows and butterflies, right? Yep, I know you were sick of it, because we could see that as time wore on, our page views went down. So yesterday I decided it was time to shake the proverbial tree. Let’s see what happens when I talk about something that truly bothers me as a fan! So I posted about friendship. I mused that the friends I’ve made on this journey matter more to me than the stuff I’ve acquired. Then I went one step further and commented about a couple of things that I often see in this community. The one-upping each other. The competition over the band – the one thing that none of us can really completely own and call our own. I gave some very exaggerated examples, figuring someone out there would relate. Many of you did. Still others not only related, but were convinced I was talking about them, and I am currently feeling their anger as a result.
Let me be clear, the blog was not about posting photos, being a collector, or even about stalking the band (which is a real stretch because those words were never used). It definitely was not about jealousy. The point of the blog, for those who care to understand, was about friendship. It was written as MY opinion that the friendships I’ve made along the way are much more important to me than the “stuff”…the “things”…whether those things are photos, merchandise, or time in front of the band. I didn’t expect everyone to agree with me, and I fully expected to have healthy discussion, which we did. If by chance, you find yourself convinced the blog was speaking of specific people yesterday – I would invite you to read again, a little more carefully with a lot less narcissism this time.
One thing I’ve learned in my time as a writer is that people are going to read whatever I write and then draw their own conclusions. I could say the sky is blue and someone out there will come back and say that no, it is very clearly green. People are going to draw whatever they want from my blogs, and there isn’t much I can do about that except to try and be clearer the next time. I don’t wish to lose friends, but on the same token – my job is to comment on being a fan, and if you don’t think that there’s competition in this fan community, I say you’re not looking.
Very few of our readers are interested in anything if it doesn’t have to do specifically with the band. This is not my attempt to berate readers, this is me learning where I can improve…my musing “out loud”, so to speak. On one hand, it’s humbling and no one ever needs to worry about our egos inflating…on the other, it’s frustrating. There is so much more to being a fan, such as our relationships with one another. After all, in many cases, we are reading about and seeing people who have truly been friends for over thirty years now, brought together simply from the love of a band. That is amazing and SHOULD be celebrated and talked about.
I’m all for blog views of over 700 each day, but it would be nice if it weren’t due to controversy and drama. Something for me to think about and work towards….when it comes down to it, I will just keep writing.