Why You’ve Stayed (Part 3)

In telling why we have stayed, we asked you to tell us why you have stayed.  Interestingly enough, we did not get as many responses.  If I had to give a reason for that, I would say that it is much more difficult to answer why one stays versus why one became a fan.  Finding an interest is more common than keeping one for years or decades, even.  That said, out of those people who responded, we found similarities to why we have stayed fans.

Many, many people mentioned the music and how the quality of the music remains high.  Obviously, this is important since we are talking about being fans of a band.  It also reminds me of the answer that the guys give when asked about why they continue to make music.  They almost always say it is because of the love of music and their ability to write quality songs.  I think that if Duran wrote album after album of not great stuff, most of us would leave no matter the other reasons we stay.  The music is what matters most.

Beyond the music, there is what Duran has given us and what they continue to give us.  Many people mentioned the memories associated with Duran Duran and with being a Duranie.  These memories are positive ones.  In fact, Duran Duran has been around so long for some of us that they are a part of us and a part of our lives.  Typically, they are something we have loved for so long that we simply cannot imagine not loving them and not having them and their music in our lives.  In many situations, we connected emotionally to the music.  It spoke to us and continues to speak to us.  Often, the music has helped us get through tough emotional situations.  Because of this emotional connection, it is next to impossible to turn one’s back to it.  How do you walk away from something that helped you, that was there for you?  The answer is that you can’t. 

Of course, in reality, Duran is still giving to us.  They give us great music but they also give us tremendous performances that leave us so happy, so excited, and so ready to do more.  That kind of “high” doesn’t just happen in real life.  Thus, none of us are ready to walk away from it any time soon!  Of course, they have also allow us a chance to be ourselves and to be part of a larger community.  At a Duran show or on a Duran message board, we are all “fans”.  We are no longer the typical roles we have in life.  Rhonda is no longer just “Mom”.  Amanda is no longer just “teacher”.  We are just Rhonda and Amanda, fans.  In this case, we are all just like everyone else as we are all fans.  Nothing more and nothing less.  We then form a community, a community based on a common interest.  We are a community of Duranies.  We all love their music.  We may express that interest differently but we are united in that common love.  Being a part of a community isn’t easy to walk away from ever.

I, for one, am happy that Duran Duran is a part of my life and that I am a member of a larger fan community.  I appreciate everything that they have brought to us and continue to provide, which is rather fitting on Duran Duran Appreciation Day! 

-A

9 thoughts on “Why You’ve Stayed (Part 3)”

  1. I stayed for many of the same reasons cited by both of you–fond childhood memories and great music. I actually can trace it to Notorious. I was 14 and that was the first DD album I bought in real time (having become a fan in 82 but not owning a cassette player until 85). Of course I loved all the albums but I loved the direction the band took with Notorious, and pretty much every album after. I never left–I bought Liberty and Medazzaland and Pop Trash the day they came out just like the Wedding Album and Astronaut. I think the Warren-era stuff saved the band and I'm a bigger fan of that then, say, Astronaut, which I think was extremely overrated by the fan base. Thrilled with AYNIN and yes, liked RCM. So there you have it–the music keeps me here.

  2. So help me out: I'm new to this blog and I do enjoy it…but as I look through the archives, I notice some odd things…you seem to openly accept Dom but were not fans of Warren…writing entries about “staying” yet at least one of you discussed how you were having babies and not paying attention in the 90s…I don't know, it just feels like the perspective of these blogs is one that ignores or glosses over a big chunk of Duran's history. I mean that with respect and am not a “hater” or anything. I stopped posting on the DD fan community board because it was such a clique and nobody wanted to discuss the music (you at least raise issues daily that I care about and can relate to and want to discuss with other fans). But as someone who truly stayed with the band through the lean years and line-up changes, I sometimes find the perspective on this blog curious…or maybe I haven't read enough of the archives and am misrepresenting what's there, which is possible. I guess the biggest thing I don't understand is why the love for Dom but not Warren. Without Warren, we don't get Ordinary World or Come Undone or any success in the 90s…not quite sure that Dom has contributed to that level to deserve such love. Not saying I don't like him, and not saying that Warren didn't turn into a bully at the end (as seems to be implied by all I've read)…well, rambling now, please forgive me…

  3. Since I was 13 Duran Duran have been a part of my life. I love it. As a Simon Girl, I have had it easy. Simon has never gone anywhere, either. It was never even a question for me “How long am I going to like Duran Duran?”
    ANSWER: ALWAYS
    I can't imagine NOT liking them, because for as long as I can remember, a new DD album has always been something to rejoice. I might not like everything they have ever done, but I have all the albums and I honestly believe that the wheat far outweighs the chaff on most of them.
    A succession of boyfriends and ultimately, the man I married have had to come to terms with my 'Duranie-ness' and my Simon LeBon obsession.
    The look on my then-Fiancee's face as the 5 boxes labelled 'Duran Duran stuff' came out of my parents home was priceless. I wish I had a picture of it.
    Even while I was busy having babies in the 90's and 00's, I continued to run for the VCR to record as many of DD's TV appearances as I could. Just last February I sat on the floor in front of the TV, and yelled at my kids to be quiet because “Duran Duran are on TV, Dammit!” I clapped my hands and squeaked with joy. Sad, perhaps, but true.
    My Hubby just laughed, and shaked his head.

    When Simon lost his voice earlier this year,I was in a new place. I know the JT Girls had to go thru the period when JT left DD, but he DID come back. Andy left, came back and left again and DD survived. Without Simon, I couldn't imagine Duran Duran. Kind of like INXS with the new guy. I'm sorry, I'm sure he's a fine singer, but could he ever be Michael Hutchence?
    No of course, not.
    And so it was for me with Simon and Duran Duran. Had that conclusion been reached I would have given that version of Duran my full support. Fortunately, that doesn't seem to be something we have to worry about any more. Thanks to the Gods for that.

    The reason I have stayed is simple.Duran Duran have never left me, either.I'm not going anywhere, and neither I suspect are they.

  4. @Anonymous #1-Yes, the music is the key, isn't it? I think it keeps all of us!

    @Anonymous #2-You are right that we might not talk very frequently about the 90s. The simple reason is that this blog is focused on talking about current issues for Duranies. Thus, we will talk about a new album, for example. If we talk about past issues, it is usually because those issues were brought up somewhere recently within the fandom. As for our acceptance of Dom, I think it really comes down to personal preference and style. To us, Dom fits well with his position and Warren never really did. As far as contributions go, it is too early to tell what Dom will contribute. I think his contributions on AYNIN were fabulous!

    @Cynthia-I LOVE how you put it. The band never left you! That's true. They haven't gone anywhere so why should we?

    -A

  5. Fair enough, thank you for responding. I'm not sure how a guy can play guitar for 15 years and not really “fit,” or be the creative force behind the band's most critically and commercially successful album–but the past is the past and I do agree that everything about AYNIN–from Dom's contributions to Ronson and, well, just everything–is fabulous. Cynthia, I am your male counterpart (unfortunately for my wife!). My 2 year old loves watching DD's VH1 Super Bowl weekend performance–he'll say to me “sick” which is short for “music” and then he'll sit on my lap while watch the band go through AYNIN and Notorious!

  6. Thank you for reading and commenting, Anonymous with what sounds like an adorable 2 year old! No one questions that Warren help to write songs that were commercially successful. When I said that he didn't really fit, I meant that more than just musically. That said, part of what made early Duran magical, in my opinion, was how there was this musical fight between the guitar and keyboards, a tension between the two. This didn't seem to exist with Warren as he and Nick seemed to go hand-and-hand. Beyond that, though, he was different style-wise and personality-wise. I always had a hard time with his being an American, for example. Duran Duran is a British band and there are cultural differences.

    -A

  7. I came to the band when all of my classmates were leaving, so the band meant more to me because I took so much stick for loving it. I'm still with the band 25 years later because they are the soundtrack to a good day and the reason to get out of bed on a bad one. Every break and lunch hour has to have at least one song, so I can have a bit of a dance and recharge my positivity battery. I could no more abandon this band now than cut off a limb. It's too much a part of me. It's like a family member which sometimes disappoints and sometimes makes me want to tear my hair out, but I can't help but love them anyway. At this point, I am living for December, to see them come home to Birmingham again and give me a reason to put up with all the BS for another year. I have 3 or 4 songs on my mp3 player which instantly pick me up and make me bounce again. I don't care if people think me odd, I went through it at 13 so people's reactions can no longer hurt me.

  8. You raise great points about the musical and cultural differences. That's validated by what Andy wrote in his book–if we're to believe him, the creative forces in the classic lineup consisted of Andy and Nick at opposite ends with Simon in the middle and John…well, John apparently on drugs the whole time or something and Roger just “there.” Exit Andy and enter Warren and the dynamic changes (you could even see it as early as the “Meet El Presidente” video–as a 15 yr. old I remember thinking, “Gosh, I think Nick really likes this new guitarist guy.” (I felt really betrayed by Andy leaving and was ready to embrace Warren at the time too). Of course, I will defend the Nick-Warren creative output–when it worked, it produced some of the most haunting, lush ballads in the Duran catalogue (see Pop Trash Movie, Midnight Sun, Someone Else Not Me)…likewise, I thought it also yieled the “powerful guitar driven dance music” that the early Duran was known for (Big Bang Generation comes to mind)…but I can see where the fan base would splinter over stuff like Lava Lamp and Silva Halo etc. So…I hear you. I also think Warren era enthusiasts such as myself must acknowledge that that lineup was unsustainable–Simon grew increasingly distant and miserable. I think AYNIN is interesting as it put the whole Duran musical dynamic on its ear with Ronson–probably the only time that's happened (maybe it happened with Nile Rodgers during the Notorious sessions too).
    Regarding my 2 year old: We also have the Fallon and Leno shows on our DVR and I rotate among them based on how much time we need to settle him down (we also have a 6 month old so sometimes we really need him to relax and not run his little brother over!). The Fallon performance of Leave a light on is simply magical to me…I have ideas for two blogs that you may have already posted–I would like to offer a defense of RCM and I would also like to make the case that I think AYNIN is the best Duran record ever…thanks for the blog and interaction–it's so cool to connect with other fans (not being on Facebook or an active blogger/poster doesn't help). –Chris

  9. @Anonymous in Birmingham-We are also looking forward to seeing them there in December! Thanks for reading and commenting!

    @Chris-I think you are right that the lineup with Warren was unsustainable, no matter how good the music was or wasn't. Likewise, it has been proven that it wasn't sustainable with Andy, either, no matter how much we wish that wasn't the case. I'm hopeful that Dom can bring something to the table, musically, while not causing problems, which it appears that he did with AYNIN. As for the possible blog topics regarding RCM and AYNIN, we have talked about them some. You can always check the tags but one blog post about RCM that you might want to check out is: http://www.dailyduranie.com/2010/12/i-apologize-for-very-late-blog-today-it.html#comments

    As for AYNIN, the best post there would be the review of the album found here: http://www.dailyduranie.com/2011/01/aynin-daily-duranie-album-review.html

    I'm glad that you found us and have a place to connect with other fans! You probably need it with 2 little ones keeping you busy!

    -A

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