Recently, when I have taken time to glance through social media, I have been seeing a lot of posts from friends talking about going to see the Killers live. On one hand, those posts (pictures, videos, comments) make me smile. After all, I get how fandom fills one’s heart and brings nothing but happiness. On the other hand, it makes me a little sad since I couldn’t go see them myself this tour. They played in Chicago and Minneapolis during semester finals week. Those cities are the ones I can easily get to. Unfortunately, that is the one week that I absolutely cannot be gone. I have to give the finals and, more importantly, I have to grade them. Work had to come first.
As I type that, though, I have to acknowledge that it would have been a different story if it was Duran. I would have done what I need to do to get there. Thinking back, I have bent over backwards to get to Duran functions even when the wise decision would have been not to go. The most obvious example was the John Taylor book talk and signing that took place in Chicago in October 2012. Life was a little…lot….super crazy then. I could not afford to take a day off because Election Day was around the corner and I needed to be gone for that. I had also taken time off earlier in the month to attend a President Obama rally (and to meet him that day). My students needed me to be there. So I did what must be done. I drove to Chicago, attended the function, and drove right back home. This, of course, led to more exhaustion and eventually falling ill a week or so later.
As much as I love the Killers and other bands, I won’t bend over backwards in the same way that I do for Duran. It is as simple as that. This reminds me of another time when I asked friends who would be into seeing Depeche Mode with me. At that time, I had a friend say to me, “I love Depeche like you love Duran. They are my band.” Okay. Cool. I can always appreciate fandom. Plus, I figured this meant that she was totally in for Depeche. Funny enough, though, when it came to the actual purchase of tickets, she folded. She wasn’t willing to part with the $150 or whatever the ticket cost was. If it was Duran, I wouldn’t have hesitated with that $150 ticket price. Does that mean that the original statement about Depeche being her Duran was wrong? I don’t know. I cannot really compare someone else’s fandom to mine. After all, some might say that I have taken this fandom thing way too far. This blog might be one example. Who else keeps up a daily blog for 7 years other than the two of us? Who else is planning another convention?
Fandom is really a personal thing. What one person is willing to do might be very different than what someone else is willing or able to do. For me, I am willing to sacrifice a lot if it means going to something Duran. While I love other bands, I’m going to be pretty limited in what I would want to do. Some people, on the other hand, might be really strict at all times even with the band they love the most. Still others might be open to doing a lot for a lot of bands they love. This range of responses is part of what fascinates me about fandom. I know that fandom is about having a passion for something or someone. How that translates in real life actions depends on the person.