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TV vs. Radio: Survey Question

If you are someone who checks into the blog on a daily basis (and we hope that you do!!!), you probably noticed that the questions of the day took on a slightly different format this week.  We finished up the topic about which video is each band members’ best.  The results of that topic are as follows:

SIMON:

NICK:

JOHN:

ROGER:

ANDY:

WARREN:

DOM:

Personally, I love how many different videos were chosen.  Anyway, the new topic is the last one for videos for awhile.  In this case, we are asking the opposite:  which band member looks the best in each of the video.   I’m not going to lie.  I wouldn’t mind seeing some competition between the Simon fans, the Nick fans, the John fans, etc.  Fight for your favorite, people!

Of course, the number of Duran Duran videos is finite.  This topic cannot go on forever.  I’m not sure what survey question we should ask next.  After all, we have been doing this question of the day thing for awhile now.  We have asked about lots of different aspects of Duran Duran.  Here is a list:

  • Which band member looks the best in each video
  • Which video is each band member’s best
  • Sexiest video
  • Song with the best lyric
  • The best lyrics
  • Favorite video
  • Favorite 1st track, 2nd track, etc
  • Favorite album covers
  • Favorite picture of each band member
  • Favorite Andy Taylor solo song
  • Favorite Arcadia song
  • Favorite b-side
  • Favorite song Duran has covered
  • Favorite demo
  • Favorite Dom Brown solo song
  • Favorite duo picture or combo of 2 band members
  • Favorite song
  • Favorite group photo
  • Favorite band member
  • Favorite John Taylor solo song
  • Favorite live track
  • Favorite merchandise
  • Most played live songs
  • Favorite Neurotic Outsiders song
  • Notorious vs. Arcadia
  • Favorite song from each album
  • Favorite Power Station song
  • Rank each of the albums
  • Songs never heard live
  • Songs rarely heard live
  • Songs heard live a lot
  • Most recent setlist
  • Other songs that should be added to the setlist
  • Side and solo video
  • Favorite single
  • Favorite song from the Devils
  • Favorite song from TV Mania
  • Favorite side project

The question I have for all of you is an easy one.  Do you have an idea for the next topic?  Is there something that we have not covered but should?  Is there a topic that should be redone as people’s opinions might have changed and because the topic is super fun?  Where do you think we should go from here?

-A

P.S. Thanks to those who have sent/turned in your Top 40 Duran Duran songs homework!  Remember that it is due October 28!

 

Was It Worth It?

Last weekend, I blogged about the article in Classic Pop magazine about Duran Duran’s videos.  In this piece, the author mentioned about how the band or some band members were less than excited about the Girls on Film video.  First of all, I’m not sure I ever really read that before or if I did, it didn’t stick to me.  Then, this led me to ask the question.  Do they regret this decision?  Are there other decisions that they wish weren’t made?  Even if they regret decisions, do they think that they were still worth it?

Again, I turn to Girls on Film.  From everything I know about the video, they did it for two reasons.  One, they had learned that there were clubs in the U.S. that showed videos.  A long form video like GOF would get them a spot in those clubs with frequent airplay.  Two, they wanted something controversial in order to get people talking.  The more people talk, the more interested people get and the more likely to sell records.  In fact, on the easter egg on the Greatest DVD, one version of GOF shows the band holding a sign that read, “Some people would do anything to sell their records,” (or something like that).  That statement tells me that they weren’t so excited to do a video like this but they were willing to do it for the end goal of selling records, getting famous, etc.

Is it okay to do some less than awesome things in order to achieve one’s end goal?  Do you think it never is okay?  Sometimes is?  Never is?  In the scheme of things, this probably isn’t so bad.  It isn’t like they killed anyone or something that hurt people directly.  Still, I have to wonder if they think it was worth it now.  Then, of course, I’m sure that there are lots of other decisions that they might not have been excited about but sucked it up for the purpose of the end goal.

One aspect of their career that I would put in this category is the work ethic they demonstrated.  When I read about early Duran, I’m always so amazed how much they worked.  They put out three albums in less than 4 years with touring and promo appearances throughout.  While I’m sure that they had a ton of fun within this work, it still meant that they gave up almost every other aspect of their lives.  Yes, some managed to get and keep relationships, but it seems to me that most didn’t.  I am willing to bet that they missed a lot of family functions, for example.  Did they miss out on reading a lot of books then?  Watching movies?  Taking up hobbies?  Lost friendships due to lack of time?

I know it is probably weird to think about all that.  Yet, I find myself asking the same types of questions of myself.  I have a time consuming job but I am also busy doing political work.  Like Duran in the early 1980s, I have my eyes on a prize.  My schedule between now and Election Day is insane, to say the least.  Is it worth it, though?  I hope it will be.  Will I think so if things go my way?  Probably.  What if they don’t?  Will I second guess myself and this decision?  Possibly.   Would Duran have regretted Girl on Film and their insane schedule if they were not successful?  No clue.  If only I had hours and hours to converse with them.  Nonetheless, I appreciate the food for thought.

-A

Time is a Ribbon

We are finally in October. I say finally because September seemed to creep by, and I’m hopeful that my weather gets on board with the idea of October and cools off a little bit. One can hope, right?

October first is an interesting date for me, particularly when it comes to Duran history. I have not checked thoroughly, but I tend to believe that I have seen more Duran-shows on October first than any other date during the year.

The idea that I’ve been to that many shows over the course of a lifetime to even compare is ridiculous. However silly it may be, it is true. Even better, each show I’ve been to on October 1st has taken place since 2005. For my next trick, I will age some of you!

Do you remember the Agassi Grand Slam for Children Charity show in Las Vegas? That was on this date in 2005. A wild weekend made hundreds of times more fun and memorable because so many of my friends were there. From field trips by limo to see an 80s cover band play, to get togethers in the bar and our own special brand of after party that went until sunrise, it was a weekend I will never forget. I could be mistaken, but I believe that it was the last time I saw Andy Taylor perform with the band. I don’t remember the show itself being very remarkable (aside from the foot pounding we did in the stands back in the “Duranie” section during Wild Boys).  Isn’t it strange how those seemingly unremarkable moments sometimes end up as footnotes our history? So much has taken place during the thirteen years since, yet I can hardly believe it has been that long.

In 2011, I saw Duran Duran play at the Sky Theatre in Valley Center, California. This was the first show I had seen since flying to the UK in May for shows that didn’t happen. I was very nervous about seeing the band again and for the first few minutes they were onstage I couldn’t even look at Simon. Amanda couldn’t fly to California for the show, so I went with my husband. As much as I love the guy, he  had no understanding of what it felt like for me to be there that night. He didn’t get it, he’s never going to get it, and that’s that. Even so, the band was back and better than ever. I remember being shocked by how strong Simon’s voice was that night, and I still believe he is a stronger, more powerful singer now than he was before that mess with his vocal chords earlier that year. As for the rest of the band, well, I think the entire flow of events that year gave them a new appreciation for their craft. I know I certainly appreciate them. Seven years went by in the blink of an eye.

Then there was the Hollywood Bowl in 2015. That show remains as something out of a dream for me. Truth be told, Amanda and I were willing to break the bank to get the best possible seats for that show, and from our second row center chairs that night, we saw the first of many shows on the Paper Gods tour that night. The Bowl is a very special place, filled with a lot of personal memories for me, but knowing that I finally saw Duran Duran perform there, is at the top of the list. It nearly erases the memory I have of driving up the Grapevine that night after the show, knowing that many of my friends had gotten invited, or made their way into the after party for the band that night. Lucky souls! Can you imagine it has already been three years?

The moral here, of course, is that time flies. I have the luxury of taking the time to think back and take stock in those seemingly small moments. I mean, Duran Duran only played four songs that night in Las Vegas. I remember seeing Andy on stage that night, but I didn’t necessarily take special notice. Would I have done it differently if I’d known it would be the last time I’d see him with Duran Duran? Who knows? If I’d realized that so many of my friends got into the after party at the Hollywood Bowl, or that someone would have gotten in me in there if I’d asked – would I have stayed? Who really knows?  Lamenting history isn’t helpful, but what I find most poignant and worthy of tucking away is that those tiny little moments and memories matter. Sometimes, they might even determine what comes next.

-R

Fandom to Friendship

I have been looking forward to this weekend for a long time.  Instead of my usual grading and campaigning in between household chores weekend, I’ll be heading to Chicago after work to spend time with a group of women.  These women have been friends of mine for almost 20 years.  During this weekend, like most of our time together, I suspect that we will spend a lot of time just lounging in front a TV, watching something completely ridiculous while snacking and chatting.  Maybe we will go out to eat but we might not want to move from the living room.  Sure, I might bring some grading with me but it still will be relaxing as heck.  I’m hoping that it renews me a bit as I finish the first month of work and start moving into the last month of election season.

Where did I meet these people?  Funny enough, we met on a message board (fan forum) over a little TV show, Roswell.  When we first started getting together, we watched a lot of episodes or other Roswell related material.  We talked about all things Roswell fan community related.  Needless to say, we had such amazingly fun times that the show Roswell will always have a special place in my heart.  Yet, time has passed and we have moved on from the show since it was canceled in 2002.  (Although, the show is being rebooted in the spring of 2019!).

I remembered being worried in 2002 about how this little friendship group would be after the show ended.  How long could we continue to be focused on Roswell?  How many times could we rewatch the episodes?  I feared that once the show and everything connected with it got old and tiresome, we would stop getting together.  Maybe,  our friendship would slowly fade.  I worried about this because I have seen it and felt it from other friends both before and since.  When I was a kid, my best friend was just as into Duran as I was.  Then, she moved away and soon said goodbye to being a Duranie, too.  This marked the beginning of the end of our friendship.  We never had a falling out and never got angry with each other, but we lost this very important connection.  As an adult, I have experienced something similar with people who were once part of the Duran fan community and who are not now.  Our friendships hang by a thread.

For those friendships, I guess there was not much of a foundation outside of fandom.  On the other hand, the friendship between this group of women goes beyond fandom.  It may have brought us together, initially, but our love for each other has kept us friends long after our fan connection has died.  When I think about fandom, that is really what I hope is true for all the friendships I have made.  I wouldn’t want Duran to be the only thing that keeps me friends with people.  I hope our connections run deeper.

-A

I Know This Shattered Feeling

I’m sorry the blog is posting so late today. Like millions of other Americans, my attention has been glued to the testimony taking place on Capitol Hill (Washington, D.C.) today. If you’re not in America, and you don’t know what I’m referring to, Google it. I find myself struggling to find the right words.

As Duran fans, our love and loyalty has recently been put to the test. “Who do you believe?” has been a common question that I’ve seen and thought about many times lately. The same question is now up for debate with the American public.

I don’t have answers. I didn’t when it was Simon, and I still don’t now. It isn’t my intention to persuade anyone to my way of thinking, nor am I determined to debate events that I wasn’t present to witness. Instead, I come here to forget and take a breather. To wipe the slate clean. I enjoy living and breathing. Yes, I have a history, and not all of it is of great memory. This place is my escape. It is how I take a deep breath, and it is how I remind myself that I’m LIVING.

My exhaustion hangs heavy in the air. I am sure that I’m not alone in feeling that way.

Over the years I’ve known Amanda, she has occasionally mentioned wanting something to look forward to.  She’s usually talking about having a concert on the calendar. I’ve never really felt that way, although don’t get me wrong – seeing Duran Duran live is always welcome! I don’t really know if I have a coping mechanism like that?    I just try to get through each day, and I force myself to focus on each day at a time, rather than look too far ahead. At least, that’s what I did until today. Today, I really wish I had a gig – a Duran Duran concert (thankyouverymuch) to look forward to. The diversion and opportunity to obsess over something other than regular day-to-day life is sounding pretty good right now.

Now, of course I know there’s no Duran shows ahead, at least not in 2018. I wish there were, though. The band is off doing whatever they’re doing, and I don’t fault them.  I just miss those five guys (Yes, five. Including Dom, of course.), particularly on days and even weeks like this. The utopian lifestyle of touring is far more appealing than the ugliness I’m witnessing in Washington, D.C.

I’ve been thinking about what video would be most appropriate to share here. I didn’t think I’d have much to write and share. I realized the perfect answer came directly from DDHQ themselves. The video they shared with us for DDAD2018 is perfect and exactly what I needed. I hope you take a deep cleansing breath, watch, and enjoy! Click on the link!

Duran Duran – Pressure Off/Hold Back the Rain from Budokan

-R

The cold harsh reality of ticket scalping

 

Recently, I ran across an article by Consequence of Sound that didn’t surprise me one bit, yet reading the words infuriated me anyway. Surely you must know what I mean: when something tells you what you already know, even so, it makes you angry to read the words in print. That was my reaction when I read the headline alone.

“Ticketmaster has been reportedly been enlisting scalpers to purchase tickets in bulk, and then resell them at higher prices on the Ticketmaster-owned platform, TradeDesk.”

https://consequenceofsound.net/2018/09/ticketmaster-scalper-program/

I have to ask, just how many people are surprised to read any of that? I doubt many, particularly if you’ve gone to many concerts over the years. If anything, you read the headline and while you weren’t shocked, you are definitely at least a little angry.  Even though as of Friday morning, Ticketmaster denies any such claim, it is hard to imagine that the reports weren’t just wild accusations.

Here’s the thing, we all know Ticketmaster condones at least some form of secondary marketplace because they run one. It is on their website, and the reseller tickets are offered right alongside the regular ones. These tickets are sold by private individuals, but Ticketmaster facilitates the sale. Yes, as Ticketmaster admits through a disclaimer right on the site as a customer is browsing, resale ticket prices may be inflated over and above the face value. But is that scalping?

By definition, yes. However, the scalping practice that Ticketmaster and others have spoken out against in the past usually involves a bot purchasing more than the posted ticket limit, typically in large volume, and then reselling those tickets for ridiculously bloated prices.

How many times have any of us participated in a Ticketmaster pre or general sale, only to come away empty-handed just moments later because the show had sold out in what felt like record time? We can thank the bots for that, right? How would you feel though if those bots actually worked with Ticketmaster, as the article claims?  What if they were actually being recruited to participate?

TradeDesk is Ticketmaster’s professional reseller product, which allows resellers to validate and distribute tickets to multiple marketplaces. The article claims that Ticketmaster turns a blind eye to those who use automated systems to amass tickets for resell using TradeDesk. It doesn’t mention whether these tickets are sold at inflated pricing, but you and I know that of course they are. Again, I have to ask, isn’t that scalping, at least by definition?

Even through TradeDesk, there is a CoC (Code of Conduct) that applies. There are limits to how many tickets can be purchased, and according to Ticketmaster, there is no program in place to enable resellers to amass tickets in volume, nor is it acceptable for resellers to create fictitious user accounts to circumvent the system.

The question of what constitutes scalping still hangs thick in the air. The answer depends on whom you’re asking. For Ticketmaster, that line is very clear. As long as they are profiting, both on the front and back-end, it’s not scalping.

To many of my friends, this subject comes down to fairness. We want to be able to get good seats, we want fair pricing. With volume resellers in the business right beside Ticketmaster, a scenario involving fairness happens less and less. I’ve gone online in search of tickets for a few gigs lately. More and more often, within moments of a show going on sale, there are fewer and fewer primary sale ticket available. Everything shows up as a resale, and that means paying augmented prices right off the bat.

When I was young, and quite frankly – stupid, I wanted to believe that The Powers That Be wanted this system to be fair. I looked at bots and scalpers as the root cause to the problem. I felt that Ticketmaster just couldn’t evolve quickly enough to circumvent the work-arounds that bots (and the like) could create. As I’ve grown older and far more cynical, I recognize the real problem. My friends, you and I don’t matter.  This has never been about fairness to the consumer. Fair ticketing doesn’t matter. It is about money, and by that I mean Ticketmaster’s money, not yours.

-R

 

Signals in Smoke: Comparing DD History and Fan Support

Do you ever wonder if you are the only one to do something?  Sometimes, I think I’m way weird.  Am I the only one who thinks about the band’s history when pondering one’s life?  For example, when I have been a part of a winning campaign and feel like I’m on top of the world, my thoughts immediately turn to Duran’s history.  Is this what it felt like to play Madison Square Garden in 1984, I ask.  Am I the only one???  Maybe this is a sign that I have read too many histories of the band or watched too many documentaries that the band’s story is permanently etched into my brain.  Perhaps, it is the historian in me combined with my Duranieness.  Who knows?

So which part of Duran’s history have I been thinking about?  1986 is the year that I have been thinking about.  It was the time in which Roger and Andy left.  The band was in a transition period coming back from side projects and attempting to regain popularity and media attention.  They tried hard to get back to where they were in 1984 despite the changes.  Eventually, it seems to me that the band members had to find a new normal.  They had to accept that their careers might be very different from here on out.  (Some might argue that they haven’t really accepted that as they continue to push for commercial success that they once had.)  In thinking about this, I try to imagine what they must have felt like.  Was this change so huge that it was heartbreaking to them?  Was it frustrating?  Was there an underlying anxiety?  How did they know which aspects of the new Duran Duran to accept and which ones should they fight to maintain?  How did that acceptance come about?

I ask all these questions in the hopes of shedding light to my current situation.  I, too, feel like I’m in a transition despite having the same career (just like the band did).  There are parts of my life that are pretty significantly different than what they were two years ago.  In thinking about some of those changes, I’m left feeling lonely and a little heartbroken.  My natural tendency is to embrace whatever dark emotion I have and even wallow in it.  I’m trying hard not to do that.  Maybe the band members felt that way in 1986, too.  It is possible that they wanted to live in anger towards their former colleagues or the media or the fickle fans.  Yet, it seems to me that they did what I’m trying to do, which is to hold on to the elements that are at the core while accepting the new aspects to the best of their ability.

When I think of Duran in 1986, I don’t see people who were depressed or frustrated with many people and institutions.  Maybe they did and they just couldn’t or wouldn’t show it.  I can relate to that.  I suspect that I hide my feelings well or shield people from seeing the extent to my emotions.  The other theory is that even if people see that I’m not doing super well, I also seem unapproachable.  Yet, every once in awhile, someone pushes through, sees that things haven’t been great for me and reaches out.

I experienced this very thing this week when I arrived home to find a unexpected package in my mailbox.  What was in the package?  It was from Durandy who said that he heard that things have been rough for me so he wanted to send a little joy to me.  What did he send?  He sent a copy of his book, The Music Between Us:  Concert Ads of Duran Duran.  I cannot begin to express how much this touched me.  On top of being thrilled to have a copy of this book, it means the world to me to know that someone cares.  Of course, the gift in one that I look forward to really looking at.  I have already gone page by page once and cannot wait to really analyze each and every ad and story.  It is a gift that will keep on giving.

So, I guess, just this once, my signals in smoke were seen and received.  It definitely makes me feel a little stronger, a little more supported as I move through whatever weird transition period this is.  It also reminds me of the best of fandom, which is how fans can and do support one another.  That is another gift I will treasure.

-A

NYC Fan Meet-up!

Calling all Duranies, this is an official Duranie Alert for a fan activity!! (well, maybe not quite that official…)

Are you on the East Coast? Can you get yourself to New York City?  If you are so inclined, there is an upcoming Duran Duran Fan Meet-up happening at Loreley Beer Garden in Manhattan on October 6th!

Amanda and I love going to fan meet-ups! They are the very best way to meet new friends and celebrate Duran Duran. The connections fans make with one another are the lifeblood of the fan community, and it is exciting to see fan activities like this taking place, even if they’re on the opposite coast from this Duranie.

This meet-up sounds like a great way to bring in Autumn. There aren’t any Duran Duran gigs on the calendar until at least 2019 (KAABOO February 15-16), so what better way for a pick-me-up than a fan activity like this?

It would be outstanding to be able to give the beer garden a headcount, so drop us a line here at Daily Duranie to say you’re going and we’ll let the event organizer know. If you’ve already gotten invited to the event through Facebook and responded that way – no need to tell us. We’re just trying to help her spread the good news!

Do us a favor, and have some beer for us too!  We’ll each be at our homes, wallowing in self-pity. Maybe Amanda will be grading papers, and perhaps I’ll be packing and boxing. We both will be wishing we were in New York City, having a great time visiting with all of you!

Here are the details – don’t forget to let us know you’re going (send us an email!)

NYC Fan Meet-Up
October 6, 2018, 6pm EDT
Loreley Beer Garden
7 Rivington St. New York, New York 10002

So envious of anyone who is able to go – send us some pictures so we can post them!!

-R

Back to School, Back to Reality.

I sense a new school year upon us.

I wish I could say I were more thrilled about this, but I am not. The other parents stand at the park, gabbing away with the other moms as they excitedly remind the rest of us that school starts the next week. I’m usually the one groaning in response. Relishing the new school year is not for me.

I hate schedules. I don’t enjoy waking up early to my alarm. Never mind that my natural wake up time is 7:30 no matter what. I really don’t enjoy making lunches, or dealing with the drop-off line, or the pick-up line for that matter. I especially despise homework and the time it takes away from family to get it done.

Which are all reasons why I continue to homeschool, I suppose. We still have a schedule though, which is annoying. I like the “anything goes” part of summer, where I can be flexible with what needs to happen and when. Deciding at the last-minute to go to the beach, or see a movie are the best parts of summer break. I love camping and feeling like we can just GO.

This summer, however, had precious little of any of that. That must be why I’m struggling to believe that by Friday, I need to be back to a normal schedule. I need to be finished reading a few of the books I plan to use this semester, and I need to be ready to work on effective note taking and listening. The idea of forcing the youngest be up by 6:30 and ready to leave the house by 7:30 is not a happy thought. No more lazy days for her, and definitely not for me. Who wants any of that???

I think the same has got to hold true for Duran Duran. Aside from the couple of one-off shows and private gigs, they haven’t toured since last September when they were in Japan. Have they set foot in a studio, or even jammed together?  I don’t know. It’s probably better that way. What I do know for sure is that no matter what one does, it is hard to return back to work after a good vacation.  (It’s even tough to return after a bad one!)

This is the same whether you’re a rock star, a mom, or even a teacher. (Ask Amanda, she’ll tell you!) Getting back to a daily grind can be painful, even if you love your job to pieces. Once you make peace with the idea that this is happening, the train is moving and you gotta get on board, I suppose it gets easier. That first step though? Ouch!

I’m not saying that it’s time the band return to the studio or whatever they’ve got planned. For all I know, they already have been working their precious little fingers to the bone. Maybe they’re relishing a well-needed break. It really doesn’t matter, except that I just know how tough it is for me, and probably Amanda – who left her lunch at home on the very first day back – to get back into it. I kind of wonder to myself if it is the sort of thing where, the longer you’re away from it, the tougher it is to get going again.

Go ahead and ask how much writing and web re-design I finished this summer. Not a single thing. I completed my entire to-do list for the house though. Somehow, that doesn’t make me feel more accomplished, either. It isn’t that I haven’t thought about writing. I just can’t seem to bring myself to sit down and start again. I am so keyed up about family stuff I can’t sit still. Reading and writing don’t hold my attention. The idea of starting again overwhelms me. I don’t even feel motivated. Maybe I’ve been away from it too long? Perhaps it is just that I have too much on my plate and I can’t concentrate. Oddly, the idea of being able to focus on something academic for my daughter rather than how many weeks it will take to sell this house is almost welcome.

Ask me about that in another week to ten days. I may have changed my mind by then.

-R

Whatever I’ve Done to Receive

Over the course of the almost eight years or so that Rhonda and I have been writing this blog, we have written many times about the positives of fandom.  I think back to all of the blog posts I have written that focused on the pure joy I have received at various Duran shows or at other fandom events.  It is common for me to point out that my favorite memories and best days of my life include those days when my entire being is surrounded by fandom.  I might describe an amazing moment like hearing the first few notes of Secret Oktober in Brighton, England, and realizing that this is really happening.  Perhaps, I would describe the ridiculously fun times when I have found myself on a stage at a Howl at the Moon singing Rio with my fellow fans.  It is even the little moments like exchanging messages with your blogging partner while watching a brand Duran Duran special online.  Yet, this week, I am reminded of why this all matters when you boil it down.

My parents have been visiting my sister in North Carolina for the last couple of weeks.  My dad did not seem himself on the morning of their flight there but he has some significant health issues.  No one thought that much about how he was acting.  Unfortunately, throughout their visit, he had not shown any improvement.  Finally, after consulting his doctor, they took him to the hospital where he is has been receiving treatment for pneumonia.  Thankfully, he has been improving with the goal of him being discharged later today and returning home early next week.  I cannot say that this week was the easiest for me as I worried about him greatly while needing to get myself ready for the upcoming school year.

After all, my parents are my rock.  They are my go to people.  When something goes wrong or I’m experiencing frustration, I look to them.  When I was a kid, I might have sought them out for their advice or words of wisdom.  Now, it is more of a situation of having them be my sounding board.  There is no judgement with them and they understand where I am coming from.  Truly, I have always felt incredibly fortunate to have this type of relationship with them.  So many friends of mine have very complex relationships with their parents that includes both love but also utter frustration.  I have none of that.  Now, though, as they age and struggle more with their health, I am facing a new problem.  What do you do when your go to people are the people you now need to process about?  Who do you seek out especially when you are terribly in asking but often needing the support?  I don’t have a good answer to that other than I’m working on it.

In order to seek some emotional support, I decided to post about it on my social media.  I figured a lot of people especially on my Facebook would respond.  After all, like everyone else, I have cousins and other family who are my “friends” on that platform.  A lot of my high school friends got to know my parents quite well so I knew that they would reach out.  Current colleagues might also feel some sort of obligation to offer their kind thoughts and any assistance with work that I might need.  The one group that I didn’t really consider was the group that I would define as “Duranies”.  A number of people whom I have met and gotten to know because of being a fan of Duran Duran reached out.  Many of them just offered positive thoughts but a few went farther than that.  Six years ago, around this time, I, too, was in North Carolina.  Rhonda and I toured the southeast part of the country, which included a show in Durham.  This tour gave us the chance to meet fellow fans from that area.  Well, a number of those North Carolina or nearby fans offered to provide more than just emotional support.  They volunteered to go to my family there, if they needed something.  I cannot tell you how much I appreciate that.

Fandom has definitely brought me fun.  It has given me hours, days and even weeks of escape.  I love that about fandom.  Yet, I’m most grateful for are the people who have come into my life through my fandom.  Some fans remain casual acquaintances but some speak directly to my heart by being willing to help those people that mean the most to me.  At the end of the day, so to speak, this is what I will be most grateful for.  I cannot begin to appreciate the friends I have made enough through the Duran Duran fandom.

-A